| theoretical understanding than a great deepening of your emotional awareness. To some degree this has already been | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| to identify with what you fear most. Such emotional reactions can be found constantly in your self- | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| empty. Only when beliefs are incorporated at the emotional level, integrated in the whole character structure, will | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| to find where you cling to spiritual and emotional infancy. Search in this direction even if you | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| of independence and self-responsibility. Both indicate spiritual and emotional adulthood, freedom, growth, creativity, strength, trust in the | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| trust in the self, and real security. The emotional climate of false religion can be expressed in | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| unjustly treated child. True religion is spiritual and emotional maturity. God's role is not to provide you | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| mind. It does not work that way. Its emotional impact would remain if you tried to change | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| perpetuate infancy. Once you analyze and understand certain emotional behavior patterns, you will realize how preposterous they | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| change. You must find these subtle and unobtrusive emotional reactions. They are neither obvious nor strong. Nor | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| in this respect. They do not connect certain emotional reactions with this God-image, with the false religious | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| always easy to know. When you investigate your emotional reactions and find that you want companionship out | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| 81, Conflicts in the World of Duality 89. EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION Greetings, my dearest friends | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| function harmoniously have developed the physical, mental, and emotional sides of their nature. These three spheres are | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| neglect, repress, and cripple the growth of their emotional nature. This neglect is universal. Most human beings | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| this furthers mental growth. But why is the emotional nature generally neglected? There are good reasons for | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| let us first understand the function of the emotional nature in human beings. It includes, first of | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| degree you shy away from any kind of emotional experience, to that extent you also close the | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| door to the experience of happiness. Moreover, the emotional side of your nature, when functioning, possesses creative | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| To the degree you close yourself off from emotional experience, to that very degree the full potential | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| can function only to the degree that your emotional life is strong, healthy, and mature. Therefore, your | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| powers will be hindered if you have neglected emotional growth and discouraged yourself from experiencing the world | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| and mental growth and a conspicuous neglect of emotional growth? Several general explanations could be advanced, but | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| pain. Contrary to just registering such impressions mentally, emotional experience really touches you. Since your struggle is | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| true that you can anaesthetize your capacity for emotional experience, and therefore cannot feel immediate pain, it | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| wall of false protection against the impact of emotional experience. If and when you cannot help but | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| the following: as in everything else, feeling and emotional expression can be mature and constructive or immature | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| and mind and therefore, quite naturally, an immature emotional structure. Most of you gave your body and | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| painful experiences. Yet this is done with your emotional self. You stop its functioning because you consider | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| the personality than to the growth of the emotional nature. Hardly anyone recognizes that emotional growing pains | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| of the emotional nature. Hardly anyone recognizes that emotional growing pains are necessary too, and that they | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| it in these terms, you believe that the emotional growth process should come about without growing pains | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| represses what is still a part of your emotional being, but through an organic process of emotional | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| emotional being, but through an organic process of emotional growth wherein feelings will naturally change their direction | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| crisis itself is the effect of the hidden emotional immaturity, as well as of the existing self-deception | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| so. What has not been properly assimilated in emotional experience but has instead been repressed will constantly | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| may not be factual. It can be an emotional climate, a symbolic association that lodges exclusively in | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| be a mutual harmony between the mental and emotional faculties. One will not contradict the other. As | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| hope to accomplish this without tending to your emotional growth. You want to believe that the one | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| your mind as to whether you really want emotional growth or you still want to cling to | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| and love are one -- by neglecting your emotional processes? Think about this, my friends. Begin to | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| love they gave? Could love be given without emotional maturity? QUESTION: Is a faith in God and | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| Is a faith in God and love without emotional maturity possible? ANSWER: That is impossible, if we | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| real love and real, genuine faith to exist, emotional maturity is a necessary basis. Love and faith | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| is a necessary basis. Love and faith and emotional immaturity are mutually exclusive, my child. The ability | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| ability to love is a direct outcome of emotional maturity and growth. True faith in God, in | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| to false religion, is again a matter of emotional maturity because true religion is self- dependent. It | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| faith and false love always have the strong emotional connotation of need. True love and true faith | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| self-reliance, and self-responsibility. All these are attributes of emotional maturity. And only with strength, self-reliance, and self-responsibility | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| known or unknown in history, had to have emotional maturity. QUESTION: If someone doing this work finds | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| its interference. Once you are aware of such emotional reactions, you will again come a great step | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| already freed to a degree uses repressed, unresolved emotional energies for a constructive purpose. It is true | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| your emotions. I spoke about the neglect of emotional development in general. I now wish to focus | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| imperfection has the power to color your entire emotional experience of yourself. This is not an intellectual | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| is not an intellectual, conscious judgement, but an emotional reaction. This extreme, negative view arising from certain | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| to protect you from yourself. Wherever immaturity and emotional disturbance exist, so does rigid adherence to rules | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| may not show. Yet, on some level of emotional reaction, such exaggeration always exists. When you learn | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| a result of your work that such exaggerated emotional reactions exist. You have begun to sense, at | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| lines. This either/or attitude is the basis for emotional disturbance, immaturity, and ill-health, but it especially creates | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| especially creates the moralizing attitude and the disproportionate emotional reactions, although consciously and outwardly this need not | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| in yourself as you learn to take your emotional reactions out of hiding. In either case, you | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| the light of truth. The connection between disproportionate emotional reactions and self-moralizing is quite evident. Both are | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| are based on these alternatives. To observe these emotional reactions means to observe your immaturity. Only by | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| on the physical level, it comes from an emotional and/or spiritual disturbance or mismanagement. On both the | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| and/or spiritual disturbance or mismanagement. On both the emotional and spiritual levels, real and unreal needs also | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| do so. In a mature person, an unfulfilled emotional need does not necessarily mean this need is | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| Since humans tend to be underdeveloped in the emotional arena, it is logical that their unfulfillments are | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| it is logical that their unfulfillments are primarily emotional. But such emotional underdevelopment may also manifest on | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| that their unfulfillments are primarily emotional. But such emotional underdevelopment may also manifest on other levels, so | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| physical or spiritual needs may also originate from emotional disturbances. When one neglects to satisfy one's real | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| the desired approval, people who work on their emotional growth will try to discover how they have | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| let us find the link between the two emotional aspects previously discussed and the unfulfilled needs. First | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| this. The more you are engulfed in this emotional deviation, the more you repress your real needs | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| on the real self. The underlying motivations and emotional forces at work indicate that. In many sayings | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| you cannot really live up to in your emotional being, and about your nonacceptance of yourself as | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| action. When it comes to feelings, your own emotional attitude toward yourself, the prerequisite of self-respect can | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| -- not even to a small degree. True, emotional absorption often comes much later, so it would | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| very well. QUESTION: In a previous lecture about emotional growth and its function, a question was asked | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| be very misleading. But I can describe the emotional experience of each. If it is the voice | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| can come only if you account for your emotional reactions. Of course, both may possibly exist side | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| How does a person go about re-establishing an emotional experience about God? I am not speaking about | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| for a new habit to form in your emotional reactions, but also because you cannot form new | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| as guiding directives, so as to gain personal, emotional understanding from them. The link must be made | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| but rather letting go of an attitude of emotional grasping. Be aware that the peace, strength, and | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| intellectual evaluation may be pretty accurate, yet your emotional experience is colored by your fears and desires | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| will to remain that way. Furthermore, observe your emotional reactions to others and how they affect you | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| otherwise, but you do not feel any specific emotional needs. This unawareness does not apply only to | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| this through an act of receiving. In your emotional awareness it seems to you that you need | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| repeat, such search constantly creates change in your emotional, mental, spiritual and even physical being because you | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| much aware of the significance of your own emotional reactions. COMMENT: Often in our discussions topics are | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| here that the lack of functioning on the emotional level breeds an uncertainty so that one is | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| bitterness, futility due to shallow living -- no emotional depth and not owning up to your real | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| not in words or theories, but in your emotional experience. As you well know, these are two | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| to grow steadily in your capacity for full emotional experience. All you have to do is to | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| way, but to the inner subtleties of your emotional striving, from which not one human being is | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| can you be your real self when your emotional life cannot function naturally and organically, unhampered by | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| Both procedures tamper with the natural flow; the emotional life is not trusted to function organically and | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| cannot unfold. You substitute other faculties for the emotional ones and thus discrepancies and disharmonies come into | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| which is a protective defense mechanism. By observing emotional exaggeration versus repression you will finally see how | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| process. The second category of wishful daydreaming is emotional and comes from needs instead of drives. Your | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| resourcefulness, then an imaginary outlet is necessary. Physical, emotional, mental and spiritual fulfillment is then possible only | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| as a barometer of inner changes. The different emotional quality of your fantasies and the kind of | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| the child's capacity to evaluate is limited, its emotional experience gleaned from the parents is very distorted | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| fixed, and therefore almost inhuman form in your emotional life? Do they seem artificial, robot-like, lacking the | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| particularly not with regard to your parents. Your emotional experience is always an either/or, and therefore you | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| your soul and spirit. It means the psychological, emotional, and spiritual levels of your being -- those | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| evident if the unspoken expectations, the meaning of emotional reactions, are investigated and then interpreted into concise | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| for the pain of crossing the threshold into emotional adulthood. Can you imagine being spared experiencing the | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| experience the pain, before crossing the threshold into emotional maturity and productive patterns, you have the possibility | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| your outer material life, but may affect the emotional plane. If you do not wish to love | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| to a greater extent it is found in emotional and mental illness. If, to begin with, this | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| to understand the processes of your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual nature, and specifically what happens on | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| limiting when there is no such danger. The emotional side of your nature, when faced with actual | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| defense against an unreal danger. Such dangers are emotional hurt, rejection, frustration of your will, and criticism | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| feel in mortal danger. If you translate your emotional reactions to such criticism, you will readily see | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| QUESTIONER: Yes. First you must clear up your emotional entanglement in the relationship, and then you will | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| Yes, that is right. You see, your unhealthy emotional involvement makes it impossible for you to rightly | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| if they slowly unroll the processes of their emotional deviations, understanding them and correcting false concepts, then | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| even remotely understand it. As you grow into emotional and spiritual maturity, you realize your own limitation | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| the other person's incapacity reflects his or her emotional immaturity, inner problems, and conflicts. But you become | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| to outer and obvious manifestations or concerns hidden emotional attitudes makes not the slightest difference. I am | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| about love, we have to also talk about emotional incompatibility. ANSWER: Of course, will is determined also | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| and images. I am in some sort of emotional confusion, which I have been intellectualizing. Will you | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| no shortcut to growth and genuine spiritual and emotional health. When you let it be there, in | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| and a resistance there, will penetrate deeper into emotional levels, so as to become aware of their | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| this supreme Being. But simultaneously, man's spiritual and emotional immaturity producing fear and many other problematic emotions | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| is always forgotten, and needs constant reminding. This emotional experience, being in what you feel, seeing it | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| you consider your question, you will discover the emotional dependency and moralizing character underlying it. Moralizing with | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| you, look into yourself and closely watch your emotional reactions. When you translate them into meaning, you | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| two alternatives, you undermine the organic process of emotional growth, manipulating your feelings in a most negative | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| group work you will first verify that such emotional understanding is still lacking. You know so well | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| important thing is to help you toward an emotional assimilation. Others who have the experience perhaps through | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |