| frowned upon. So it learns to hide this desire until the hiding has progressed so far that | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| The frustration becomes a double one; the first desire -- omnipotent rulership in order to be happy | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| attaining perfection in order to obtain the first desire. This, in turn, causes acute feelings of inadequacy | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| often does, and this leads us to the desire for unhappiness. We will come to it in | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| lead to a tendency toward self-destruction. Moreover, the desire for this ideal, unselfish love can easily be | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| love can easily be distorted by the unhealthy desire to suffer which we will discuss in a | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| on certain occasions. Now we come to the desire for unhappiness -- how it arises in the | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| Strangely enough, in a very distorted way, the desire for unhappiness seems to approach a state of | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| entire chain reaction into renewed momentum. Because the desire for unhappiness is unconscious, the injuries collected in | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| exist in you regardless of how much you desire the happy outcome consciously. Since the happy outcome | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| often said that self-destruction -- that is, the desire for unhappiness -- is the result of deep-rooted | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| any need for it. You will cease to desire to be a ruler when you have achieved | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| on life. To the measure you discover the desire for rulership within yourself and learn to give | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| will always find the same common denominator: the desire for perfection in order to attain happiness, in | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| be yes, although you certainly never expressed a desire for rulership in those terms. The rulership-principle is | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| chains. Without recognizing this, you cannot recognize your desire for unhappiness, your provocations in that direction -- | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| all and give up the concept and the desire. By bringing the infant in you out into | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| is the borderline between compulsion and very strong desire? ANSWER: The difference cannot be generalized. You will | 59 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| is that when you have simply a strong desire without compulsion, you are free to let go | 59 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Intellectually you may know perfectly well that your desire is unreasonable in its force and subjective importance | 59 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| difficult for me to find the difference between desire and compulsion in this case. ANSWER: The desire | 59 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| desire and compulsion in this case. ANSWER: The desire to leave home may be the result of | 59 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| compulsion, rather than being the compulsion itself. The desire in itself may be quite healthy, at least | 59 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| predicaments one feels hopeless about. This creates the desire which may be partly healthy and partly an | 59 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you know you are not and have the desire to search for it. The knowledge that you | 59 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you are not in truth and the consequent desire to search for it cannot come to you | 59 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| it. But it goes further than that. This desire includes wanting complete freedom without responsibility. You may | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| responsibility. You may not be aware that you desire just this. But I am sure that by | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| steers your life in all ways as you desire. You wish complete freedom in every way; you | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| you find in yourself the part where you desire freedom without self-responsibility. With the method of our | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| difficult to find the many areas where you desire just that. This desire can be extreme, although | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| many areas where you desire just that. This desire can be extreme, although it is often hidden | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| way to each of you if you so desire. There cannot be a single exception. You all | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| exception. You all have just this hope and desire at least in some way: freedom without self-responsibility | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| a whole you still refuse self-responsibility, yet you desire utter freedom. If you think this through thoroughly | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| freedom, the more responsibility. If you do not desire responsibility according to the degree of your capacity | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| of the rightful price. There is a strong desire and insistence on having both ways, the easy | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| need not despair over letting go of a desire and venturing into what often seems fearsome to | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| It constitutes the main result of the unreasonable desire for freedom without self-responsibility. It is the idea | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| a similar origin, but not necessarily. There, the desire to be approved may play a much greater | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| feel low, what you want, why you would desire such and such. Let out whatever comes to | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| and discriminate are the very result of a desire to escape from and to deceive oneself. As | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| can come only from yourself, from your inner desire to forfeit dependency. Dependency often manifests in rebellion | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| desires that may run contrary to your conscious desire, or other currents and conflicting reactions in you | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| If you do not want it, if you desire in some corner of your being to remain | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| cannot and should not be forced. A conscious desire should not be enforced because of my words | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| your lower nature. The real you will not desire harmful acts. This work will bring out the | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| desired to be sick. True, you did not desire the negative consequences -- you received much more | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| more than you bargained for. You did, however, desire sickness as the solution of a problem. Needless | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| chose sickness as a way out. Then this desire got lost in the subconscious, and the unpleasantness | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| and endeavor to remember the moment when the desire for sickness was almost conscious, you will have | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| your sickness. But you must find this contrary desire to your conscious one, and become aware of | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the unconscious deviations and misconceptions, apart from the desire itself, suffice to cover the inner will so | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| function. Let us suppose that you have a desire which is relatively small or not disturbed by | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| currents to consider. If doubt exists about a desire, it is accompanied by a feeling of guilt | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| accompanied by a feeling of guilt. Yet the desire may be doubly strong -- due in part | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| -- further afflict the inner will. You may desire a certain result with all your might, but | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| in knots when you think of the particular desire. Behind the compulsion and urgency that appear on | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| The realization that you cannot get what you desire unless you free yourself of the unhealthy and | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| goal, even if the outer and inner will desire the same thing, the mere fact that the | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| selfish, you feel you must suppress your selfish desire. You fail to distinguish whether your desires are | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| happiness are selfish, you do not dare to desire at all. In the process of suppression, unable | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| think that should you give in to your desire for happiness, you would not be loved or | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| will and prohibits the deserved fulfillment of your desire. The idea that selfishness, if allowed, would be | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| perspective. The different view will give you the desire and activate the free will to decide for | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| cannot flow out of you. Each time the desire for happiness manifests, a little inner voice prohibits | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| so that the inner will is broken. The desire may be reborn on an outer level, but | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| you have doubts about the rightfulness of your desire. At times this suspicion may be justified because | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| times this suspicion may be justified because your desire may actually be harmful to others or to | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| to others or to yourself. At times, your desire may be justified, but many unconscious, unhealthy motives | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| still thinks that going after your original selfish desire would actually be more pleasant. For that matter | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| you thought, or as the person involved may desire it. This may not be possible. But it | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| from the obvious factor of love and the desire to be together again, contains a deep, unrecognized | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| to cover them with the actual and true desire to be in contact with my personal dear | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| In my observation of human souls, the strong desire to communicate with departed loved ones almost always | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| When you approach it in this way, your desire to be in touch with one particular person | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| to force yourself to love, while your natural desire coming from the higher self and truly wanting | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| one who seems to give freely what you desire from the rejecter. If the situation is such | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| strength, at least in the unconscious. The child's desire is to be as strong as the desirable | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| in words or deeds, or if you merely desire to do so, does not matter. The mere | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| inwardly and focusing your thoughts on what you desire, the more will this needle remain still, poised | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| had the courage to follow through with your desire if the unhealthy motives had been absent? Would | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| your personality? Can you discover that the original desire disappears or weakens with the absence of the | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| THE PATH; FULFILLMENT OR SUPPRESSION OF THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED Greetings, my dearest friends. Blessings | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| at least to some degree, to everyone. The desire to be loved exists in every human soul | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| be loved exists in every human soul. This desire in itself is not only legitimate and healthy | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| and therefore creates frustrations. Now, why is this desire so often unconscious? Let us first examine the | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| Let us first examine the reason. The child's desire for love is limitless, but it is made | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| it is made to feel that such a desire for exclusive and limitless love is wrong; therefore | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| that exclusive and limitless love is unrealistic, its desire immature. The wrong conclusion of this lies in | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| wrong conclusion of this lies in thinking that desire for love in itself is wrong. The right | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| is this wrong way? You substitute for your desire to be loved the desire to be approved | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| substitute for your desire to be loved the desire to be approved of, to shine, to be | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| like this: You are unaware of the original desire. You are, at first, even unaware of the | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| are, at first, even unaware of the substitute desire -- the fight to prove yourself. Sooner or | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| afraid of the supposed humiliation and weakness this desire implies, nor being afraid of feeling simple sadness | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| fulfillment because it is not what you really desire. Your frustration and unhappiness always has this conflict | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| this conflict before you can find the original desire to be loved and the sadness that you | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| than to discover the unconscious conviction that you desire love but are not loved in the manner | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| your initial fear and shame. You see, the desire to be loved, in itself, is entirely creative | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| Only the way you go about making this desire come true is unrealistic, unhealthy, and damaging, not | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| true is unrealistic, unhealthy, and damaging, not the desire itself. Are there any questions at this point | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| first step is to become aware that this desire exists in you, and to what extent. You | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| will inevitably find behind this entire facade your desire to be loved. You may not necessarily desire | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| desire to be loved. You may not necessarily desire the love of the people you want to | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| specific love object in your life. But the desire to be maturely and rightly loved persists in | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| you. If you are conscious of your original desire, and then of your frustration, and then of | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| the right way toward the love we all desire, you described the work process of realizing, observing | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| to constantly recognize the emotions substituted for the desire to receive love. These emotions will not disappear | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| love -- certainly not to the degree you desire to get it for yourself. Your love will | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| in return -- or as much as you desire it or as fast as you would have | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| wish for death in various degrees. The unconscious desire for sickness is a degree of death. The | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of the physical body, and directly an unconscious desire for sickness and death. As the emotions heal | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the best means for the growth that you desire. QUESTION: When there are so many things we | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| reveal a basic earnestness, a touching humility, a desire toward the best in life and in yourself | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| detail. In previous talks, we discussed the legitimate desire to be loved. We also discussed how the | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| an unlimited amount of love and covers this desire with various other desires, such as the wish | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| you are afraid to love, the greater your desire to be loved becomes. The greater the discrepancy | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| something that you are unwilling to give. Your desire to be loved is legitimate only if you | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| therefore from life -- have a proportionately great desire to be loved. This is an equation and | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| mean that when you love, you should not desire to be loved. But your desire will be | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| should not desire to be loved. But your desire will be less strenuous, less urgent, and therefore | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| more your fear of loving produces the urgent desire to be loved, approved of, and so on | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| construct illusory forms, in the hope that your desire can be fulfilled. This process is subtle and | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| many different forms. For instance, if you ardently desire to be loved by or to impress a | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| reason, the other person cannot respond to your desire, you would be better off to see that | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| part of the illusory childhood world is the desire for instant gratification, the total lack of patience | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| cooperate? It does, if you feel the unreserved desire to face anything that is within yourself. If | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| it is always a question of love. Your desire for love and the lack of it is | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| and weak submissiveness, because this is what you desire from those who are to love you, and | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| the right way yet, you may express the desire that they should learn. This desire should be | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| express the desire that they should learn. This desire should be uttered without pressure or haste, rather | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| deviate due to a lack of understanding. Your desire for understanding should be formed with a quiet | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| and without limits. In other words, the child's desire to be loved is unrealistic. Yet it is | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| bringing about the present pain because of your desire to correct the childhood hurt. But at first | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| will further see the folly of the unconscious desire to recreate the childhood hurt, the frustrating uselessness | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| made themselves give up all expectations and all desire for love. Needless to say, this is neither | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| idea, or it may not correspond to your desire at the time. If the situation seems otherwise | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| unfaithful. It may not stop overnight, but the desire for it may steadily diminish. Then there is | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| the best of his calling, is the inner desire to help. This must be the dominant, clear-cut | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| you don't know what to do with your desire to be happy. The conflict will vanish the | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| and still is, your world. Then your conscious desire to leave the old world behind will increase | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| your intuitive nature, as well as your sincere desire to really understand the deeper meaning of these | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| ask yourself about your own motives, why you desire a certain thing. You learn to ask yourself | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| the end itself. Even if selfishness, namely the desire to become happy, enters a little at the | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| your own purpose, and you illogically contradict your desire to develop that persists just as strongly, in | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| spite of your fear of it. You all desire happiness and you all desire to make others | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| it. You all desire happiness and you all desire to make others happy. Yet, you cannot achieve | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |