| Adopted.....................30 | |
| would never make you feel guilty, provided you adopted the right kind of shame in which you | 31 SHAME |
| sometimes have sound ideas and these are then adopted and those wishes granted, while others must be | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| positive results. The fact that this attitude was adopted unconsciously and in ignorance does not alter the | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| you really aware of instances when you have adopted an opinion on an emotional basis? I doubt | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| unconscious rebellion against one's own superimposed faith -- adopted merely because it was expected and demanded. It | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| so do certain mass images that you have adopted because of your personal inner conflicts. I would | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| not consciously dealt with and pseudo- solutions are adopted, this instinct can also be led into a | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| great to bear, this secondary, superimposed solution is adopted. The first two solutions are adopted in order | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| solution is adopted. The first two solutions are adopted in order to cope with life. The last | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| order to cope with life. The last is adopted in order to cope with the conflict resulting | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| This fact requires the neutral approach we have adopted. But in the last analysis you will realize | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| fundamental problem with its pseudo-solutions. The pseudo-solutions are adopted in order to cope with the God-image, and | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| can be, and most of the time are, adopted by the same person. Which particular way you | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| influences, by others' opinions that you may have adopted for one reason or another. Such superimposition leads | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| truth can advocate slaying. Those who do have adopted someone else's experience and sell out their own | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| still clings to old habit patterns; patterns he adopted in a former stage. This may not only | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| the thoughts and the opinions a person has adopted and explains his or her feelings and emotions | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| exists. PARTICIPANT: I know a case of an adopted child where the parents gave the child too | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| in the way of life that you had adopted to deal with them, and you keep responding | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| When two people involved in a relationship have adopted opposing choices, the relationship must be fraught with | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| responses, such as martyrdom, abstinence, and resignation are adopted in a so-called spiritual guise, and render pleasure | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| use only one, the opposite of a person's adopted way of functioning still exists, though in a | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| soul will reunite. Again, this process cannot be adopted all at once, therefore the deadening process cannot | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| to situations with the destructive pattern you have adopted after some traumatic experiences in early life. You | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| for it to happen. When this attitude is adopted, change becomes a living reality for anyone and | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| can manifest only as these new modes are adopted by the consciousness. The attitude of adopting the | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| the second approach to human spirituality must be adopted. It means shedding the light of conscious awareness | 193 RÉSUMÉ OF THE BASIC PRINCIPLES OF THE PATHWORK: ITS AIM AND PROCESS |
| see that their skepticism is in itself an adopted defense. At this point the validity of this | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| conditions, one of these opposite distortions may be adopted until the pendulum swings to the other. Only | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| fits into the appearance value system you have adopted. And when you follow that through, of course | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| Adopting....................15 | |
| is recognized and one learns from it by adopting the right and constructive attitude. As a matter | 16 SPIRITUAL NOURISHMENT -- WILLPOWER |
| the personality builds defenses. People think that by adopting a certain attitude they will avoid what they | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| the exact wish that you deny yourself by adopting the opposite opinion. Because your desire does not | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| eliminate possibly wrong desires by conforming outwardly, by adopting the opposite opinion out of fear and weakness | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| the wrong concepts and then, little by little, adopting the right concepts, you will cease to fear | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| free. If you do not choose adulthood by adopting such an attitude toward life, you will believe | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| the soul is disturbed. A distortion results from adopting a particular attitude and rigidly adhering to it | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| is, nothing cripples spirit and soul more than adopting a superimposed doctrine, even a right one. I | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| -- choices that do not exist in reality. Adopting views and standards without questioning and probing, without | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| They try to find salvation and solace through adopting rules, theories, teachings, knowledge. They have it all | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| Above all, it means overcoming ever-present resistance to adopting new ways of dealing with life. It means | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| are adopted by the consciousness. The attitude of adopting the new modes of perception which your consciousness | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| spiritual block can be the result of either adopting a false, escaping, separating spirituality, or negating the | 193 RÉSUMÉ OF THE BASIC PRINCIPLES OF THE PATHWORK: ITS AIM AND PROCESS |
| your choices. And choice implies the possibility of adopting another attitude. In other words, you can truly | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| in order to avoid the fear of death. Adopting spiritual truths in order to deny feeling your | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| Adopts......................7 | |
| The person who has this innocence and purity adopts the childlike attitude Jesus recommended. Jesus' advice to | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| be given. In reality, a disturbed person who adopts such a solution is hardly able to experience | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| swings from one extreme to another. When he adopts one rule, good as it may be, in | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| of mind differs drastically from one that automatically adopts opinions or standards without question. The automatism that | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| condition has ceased to exist. The attitude one adopts to what one dislikes about the self -- | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| and pretenses that one who distrusts life inevitably adopts. When you look closer at those defenses, you | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| because it cannot bear itself any longer. It adopts various forms of escape, such as drugs or | 199 THE MEANING OF THE EGO AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| Adult.......................98 | |
| continue to live in the soul of the adult and color his or her reactions and behavior | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| child's attitude toward authority is carried over into adult life. The often unconscious reactions to authority indicate | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| impatient longing in the child: to become an adult so that what it erroneously believes to be | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| childhood, and authority now restricts you as an adult. The same conflicts re-emerge in different ways: as | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| impossible -- or so you believed. As an adult you still suffer from the same basic conflict | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| childhood this situation may repeat itself for the adult in a somewhat different version. You love your | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| particular point of view, covering childhood, adolescence, young adult life, and so on. Let that person tell | 48 THE LIFE FORCE IN THE UNIVERSE |
| child is incapable of unselfish love. The mature adult grows into it provided the whole personality matures | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| fact, it needs to be loved. If an adult existed who was able to give a semblance | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| and on in the subconscious, which in the adult personality causes all sorts of inner and outer | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| not supposed to take that risk; yet the adult is. The inner child has only the immature | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| the same tantrums may continue inwardly in the adult with no age limit, and cease only when | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| see that this is no tragedy. As an adult, you will sympathize with the child, you will | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| the child, as well as in the immature adult, there exists another form of punishment, the wish | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| these childish reactions, often occurring even in quite adult people. But even if you do not indulge | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| wants the impossible. A child cannot have an adult sense of responsibility which includes at all times | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| the way it wants it. Regardless of how adult a person may be, a remnant of this | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| course, is never the intellectual conviction of an adult human being, but emotionally it holds true; for | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| infancy, remains hidden in the psyche of the adult and continues to produce similar reactions. Only the | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| philosophy or physician could harm you as an adult person, how much more could a parent or | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| child is infinitely greater than that of any adult, and therefore the child is greatly influenced for | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| while you were a child, but, as an adult, the childhood situation is no longer valid. Once | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| your deeply hidden hurt and resentment. As an adult human being you will see that your parents | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| price in unhappiness, helplessness, and hopelessness. To be adult in the true sense means to take every | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| desiring the goal. If a person accepts full adult self- responsibility, is willing to pay the price | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| intellectualized and more open for abstract ideas. An adult is capable of understanding an idea or a | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| But if this desire is used in your adult years to overcome a childhood hurt, if you | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| The approach is different even for a young adult and for one who is more advanced in | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| fully as one wishes to receive. In the adult, the childish craving subtly merges with the mature | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| than the impressions, reactions, and experiences of the adult. This is good, for the soul who goes | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| love through a temper tantrum and as an adult later repeats this pattern -- not necessarily outwardly | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| to that extent the child -- or the adult, for that matter -- becomes alienated form the | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| better to remain helpless, to force the powerful adult world, or God, or any substitute for these | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| is wrong, you would still know, as the adult person you are, that you are taking something | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| and anxiety toward women when he becomes an adult. This may outwardly be denied, but if the | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| how she would like to be as an adult, which is superimposed. Then, as time goes on | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| and immature. It is only so when the adult person has locked his or her soul and | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| on a growing person, and also on an adult person, cannot be generalized. It depends on the | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| the child is dependent on the more powerful adult world. Everyone understands this dependency. Children are dependent | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| the child is in reality dependent. The mature adult is no more dependent on others for love | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| the child, positive identification is desirable. For an adult, a positive identification is often as undesirable as | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| than a similar experience would have for an adult. This can be observed constantly with children. Children | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| experience physical pleasure more strongly than the average adult human being. The infant is not burdened with | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| It is only antisocial and excluding if the adult manifests his or her sexual drive in a | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| that its longing was wrong, and again the adult will battle against these feelings. The healthy longing | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| explore the recesses of your psyche as an adult and find the undeveloped, problematic areas, you must | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| cease to exist when a person becomes an adult. It is only a question of degree. To | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| seclusion which can no longer work for the adult you now are. Humanity has now left behind | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| its adolescence, but is not yet a mature, adult entity. If you compare the individual's period of | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| is any more unified than is the average adult. Nevertheless, the approach of a more mature state | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| as yet, the necessary equipment to be an adult. A similar adolescent crisis has especially marked the | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| is still a greater effort than for an adult. Humankind, too, has to learn to direct the | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| the individual too may be more or less adult and mature, while continuing to harbor very immature | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| you believe that the childish state where no adult responsibility exists can be maintained. Simply by insisting | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| hidden and covered by tough substances. Without an adult and realistic understanding -- that is, a mature | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| consciousness. However, when the child grows into an adult, when the ego becomes mature, the separation becomes | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| uncover it again and integrate it with the adult ego does the personality become whole and equipped | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| find yourself in the predicament of possessing an adult ego with all its faculties intact, yet separated | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| vulnerability and its strength of feelings, with your adult understanding and ego-faculties. Cruelty can exist only as | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| child has done that is precisely where the adult continues to do so, right now -- unless | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| lowest grade of school cannot understand what an adult understands. So it is not a sin when | 151 INTENSITY: AN OBSTACLE TO SELF-REALIZATION |
| You are not constrained, once you are an adult, by your past. You constrain yourself when you | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| mind, and spirit wither without pleasure. As an adult you are able to find through your own | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| weak dependency of the small child. The thoroughly adult person uses his or her own best forces | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| along with others in giving and taking. Your adult sense of fairness makes you sufficiently pliable to | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| so that the whole personality grows lopsidedly. Your adult conscious mind ignores the fact that a crying | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| and helpless child still exists within you. Your adult believes that you have grown up entirely. Yet | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| child ignore the rights and powers of your adult state? The particular vicious circle I mentioned before | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| in the way of a child, denying the adult you are, you enslave yourself in the true | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| and unrealizable love and attention, and the legitimate adult need for human warmth and affection. In this | 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE |
| all the more since I act as an adult who does not claim any special dispensations for | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| the contrary. This approach conciliates the attitudes of adult self- responsibility that takes action by facing the | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| not at all a real need for an adult. When the growing person denies the pain of | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| For even if it were possible for an adult to finally obtain substitute parents, ideal and perfect | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| the notions of the deprived child, for the adult all this giving, coming from outside the self | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| can be attained only when you, as an adult, proceed to search within yourself for all that | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| here. What are the real needs of an adult? They are self-expression, growth, development, reaching one's spiritual | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| wall, which keeps you from experiencing life. Your adult thinking has to express itself alongside the childish | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| counter them, understand and correct them. If the adult intelligence is used merely to rationalize the painful | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| then nothing is ever gained. But if the adult mind is used to shed light on the | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| clear in your mind, not even in your adult mind, let alone in those vague, confused emotions | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| different forms in an infant and in an adult. For an infant, closeness is an entirely passive | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| feminine woman expresses her masculine principle. For the adult, closeness can be successfully consummated only when the | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| true fulfillment exist because the infant within the adult personality still seeks its own mode of fulfillment | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| in a feeling-exchange. What does feeling-exchange mean in adult, realistic terms? Feeling-exchange, or the emotional level of | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| and self-rejecting because it is not yet an adult. Would that not be foolish? The growth process | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| like to, you can even work in an adult group with the help of the adult friends | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| an adult group with the help of the adult friends you have here. For they are your | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| false beliefs. And you, too, can ask your adult friends to help you find what the misunderstandings | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| childish and childlike. Childlike is beautiful, and no adult can be truly joyful and creative and happy | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| its own particular beauty and advantage. QUESTION: (an adult question): So many children are afraid of things | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| ready to reach adulthood but blocks it, the adult energies released into the psychic, emotional, and physical | 227 CHANGE FROM OUTER TO INNER LAWS IN THE NEW AGE |
| completely anew. That is the action of the adult, mature entity, and humanity is moving toward that | 227 CHANGE FROM OUTER TO INNER LAWS IN THE NEW AGE |
| her emotional fulfillment and still be an autonomous adult? These are not real opposites but consequences of | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| change from infant to child to adolescent to adult to old age, after which a further metamorphosis | 230 THE UNIVERSALITY OF CHANGE -- REINCARNATIVE PROCESS IN THE SAME LIFE SPAN |
| more experience and therefore more fulfillment. The fully adult person has reached a freedom and a range | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| outgrown, as if you were to force an adult into the circumstances of an infant. This would | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| and their actions. You would say that an adult and a child are equal as far as | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |