| Deep-rooted.................18 | |
| is the hard work of overcoming a very deep-rooted laziness, which means constant fight, constant trying. The | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| something that is so important, or significant, or deep-rooted, or weighty. If it is of deep significance | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| to change an outlook or attitude in which deep-rooted emotions are involved. Not even a mere thought | 45 THE CONFLICT BETWEEN CONSCIOUS AND UNCONSCIOUS DESIRES |
| in a hurry believing one can whisk away deep-rooted personality problems -- problems that require patience and | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| understanding of all subtleties described here and a deep-rooted goodwill to apply them to yourself -- to | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| desire for unhappiness -- is the result of deep-rooted guilt feelings. This is only partly true. It | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| But sometimes the deviations and tensions are so deep-rooted that they cannot be lifted into awareness to | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| will do much to help you further. The deep-rooted emotional reactions brought to light always show the | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| more difficult it will be to unearth this deep-rooted misconception, which creates a tight, tense current -- | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| on all levels of your being instead. Your deep-rooted longing for this pleasure supreme is constantly in | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| living in a way that exactly opposes your deep-rooted feelings of inadequacy and inferiority. You correct your | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| breaking the flow, as it were. This very deep-rooted guilt prevents you from claiming your freedom, asserting | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| this angle. You may be sure that your deep-rooted unresolved problems stand in direct relationship to your | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| underground. The more complicated the problem, the more deep-rooted is the negativity and the conflict. Therefore the | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| or are about to reach, awareness of the deep-rooted conflict between the longing for and the fear | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| destructive guilt, self-rejection, and self-contempt? This is a deep-rooted conflict, and most human beings, whether or not | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| The purification process of this path is a deep-rooted system that totally renews the personality on all | 248 THREE PRINCIPLES OF THE FORCES OF EVIL -- PERSONIFICATION OF EVIL |
| go way beyond ordinary hypocrisy. A hypocrisy so deep-rooted and so pernicious required a strong uprooting; otherwise | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| Deep-seated.................8 | |
| not be happy. They would still feel a deep-seated unrest, would have an undefinable bad conscience. Why | 11 SELF-KNOWLEDGE -- THE GREAT PLAN -- THE SPIRIT WORLD |
| meet and thus a tuning-in results. QUESTION: Can deep-seated psychological problems, pertaining to a previous life, be | 23 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| terms with death. Modern psychology claims that this deep-seated longing stems from the desire to return to | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| does one do if the emotions are so deep-seated, so deeply buried and repressed, for such a | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| name but two such repercussions: one is a deep-seated guilt for this deliberate prohibition to loving, and | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| to it. Because of them you harbor a deep-seated guilt, whether or not you are now aware | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| actual fact. The further consequence is that the deep-seated self-regulating process of conscience says no to this | 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT |
| and weakness of many people result from a deep-seated fear of denying anything. This is not real | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| Defeat......................62 | |
| darkness that at first it will only know defeat. This defeat will cost it its position, so | 16 SPIRITUAL NOURISHMENT -- WILLPOWER |
| at first it will only know defeat. This defeat will cost it its position, so that it | 16 SPIRITUAL NOURISHMENT -- WILLPOWER |
| and wise thing was overpowered. You rationalized this defeat with all sorts of other explanations. And then | 27 ESCAPE POSSIBLE ALSO ON THE PATH |
| what it is within myself that made such defeat inevitable. What can I learn from it? Help | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| realize that by keeping your separating wall you defeat your own purpose and you contradict your desire | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| in such a way as to make evil defeat itself, the fallen spirits could never return. This | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| wears you out, and it causes reactions that defeat the very end you wish to achieve. Each | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| be gratified. In your fear of rejection and defeat such submissiveness seems the only way to achieve | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| because deep inside you could not possibly admit defeat. It goes without saying that many people are | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| in desiring to keep your separating wall, you defeat your own purpose, and you illogically contradict your | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| realizing that they are mutually exclusive and would defeat your purpose even if it were possible to | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| do you have to defend yourself against constant defeat -- another supposed fact your subconscious often takes | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| their power, all their selfish, ruthless drives, to defeat the enemy who always stands in their way | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| They withdraw into isolation, never experiencing the dreaded defeat, never realizing what a poor bargain they have | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| and obey you. Or else, if you fear defeat, you do not allow either your intuition or | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| self-centered, prohibit you from experiencing and dealing with defeat. From the findings you have made in connection | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| nature is very proud. This pride cannot admit defeat. Since defeat is occasionally inevitable, when it does | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| very proud. This pride cannot admit defeat. Since defeat is occasionally inevitable, when it does come, it | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| your idealized self-image. The healthy personality can take defeat. You all have to take it. No one | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| can escape it. But how do you take defeat? That is the question! It is possible that | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| It is possible that your outer behavior in defeat leaves nothing to be desired. But we are | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| for a person successfully to experience a big defeat in an important issue in life. But the | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| to be hidden from others so that your defeat will not be exposed. Test yourself on how | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| belittle others who are supposedly responsible for your defeat to save face. All these reactions, and many | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| truth about what your attitude really is to defeat. Test how you fear exposure of certain reactions | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| the surface reactions and behavior patterns. To experience defeat in a healthy, mature way presupposes true humility | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| a certain greatness in that you can admit defeat without loss of dignity. This very attitude actually | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| The child in you believes that the less defeat you suffer, the greater you are. Nothing could | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| great to the degree that you cope with defeat honestly, humbly, with dignity and poise; without embellishment | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| the quest for power, then your reaction to defeat will be extreme humiliation that has to be | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| as yourself. One way of dealing with a defeat that cannot be hidden is to belittle others | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| by making them seem responsible, so that your defeat becomes theirs. This creates additional guilt in you | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| serenity, you will deny the very existence of defeat as long as possible. There is in this | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| exist. It is possible to deal with one defeat in one way and differently with another defeat | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| defeat in one way and differently with another defeat. All this has to be individually found and | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| to ask yourself, How do I really take defeat? Not how it appears, but how you feel | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| past. When did something occur that was a defeat for you? What is or is not a | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| for you? What is or is not a defeat may vary with each person. What to one | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| such. A professional setback may not be a defeat if your attitude is relatively mature in this | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| day. Not being greeted may seem like a defeat. Though you may not think of it in | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| I invite you to question your attitude toward defeat, do not only think about what is generally | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| You have to find what you experience as defeat, humiliation, failure. Search in this direction, my friends | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| image that cannot allow for any semblance of defeat. As your idealized self-image weakens, you will no | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| not feel exposed and humiliated when you suffer defeat. You will thus gain the true dignity that | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| which are the real reason for one's anger, defeat being inadmissible. If these emotional reactions are allowed | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| wish is stronger than reality warrants, then you defeat your purpose. (4) If you show too little | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| evaluation of the situation in question, yet their defeat has nothing to do with their worthlessness. The | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| by relaxed activity and the ability to accept defeat, by well-defined aims with healthy underlying motivations, by | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| if you persevere. What may now appear as defeat will soon prove to be victory, an absolutely | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| vigorous intent to not let cowardice and fear defeat you will set those powers in motion that | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| that you continue to activate it, you truly defeat yourself. You must recognize this fact and thus | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| tension, anxiety, sense of failure and fear of defeat. But the exhaustion of this futile struggle, with | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| the pseudo-necessity of pursuing negative aims. Wanting to defeat life, others and yourself, out of spite, you | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| exclusive, negative, tense, and stubborn. All these traits defeat the life principle and the pleasure stream. It | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| It seems so much easier to accept even defeat if only one can blame the circumstances or | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| to bring about without your doing. It makes defeat unnecessary because it also removes, among other things | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| effect in a realistic way that will not defeat you in the end. You are now stuck | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| in order to protect your interests you must defeat others, and vice versa. Only when you know | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| you avoid a splitting off process that would defeat the task for which you have come into | 208 THE INNATE HUMAN CAPACITY TO CREATE |
| fulfillment because its tension and its emotional mind-content defeat creation? If the waiting is truly relaxed, you | 208 THE INNATE HUMAN CAPACITY TO CREATE |
| seeing how your demands and your tight holding defeat your fulfillment and imply an insult to the | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| advantages, the power and prestige, then again you defeat the purpose. You create a painful conflict in | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |