| Criteria....................4 | |
| that this is one of the most important criteria in growth, health and freedom. When this has | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| therefore for all concerned -- are the sole criteria of eternal values. These values are not accessible | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| of living but makes appearance and pretense the criteria according to which one wishes to be judged | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| their divine selves inspire them! These are the criteria for the path today. Every stage in the | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| Criterion...................8 | |
| sounds to the ear. For you, the ultimate criterion is in touching, hearing, or seeing, because you | 10 MALE AND FEMALE INCARNATIONS: THEIR RHYTHMS AND CAUSES |
| intuition would be missing. So that is the criterion by which you can proceed and judge. Each | 48 THE LIFE FORCE IN THE UNIVERSE |
| will no longer matter who said it, the criterion will be what was said. Subjective coloring, due | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| still come your way. That is not the criterion. The criterion is how you react to the | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| your way. That is not the criterion. The criterion is how you react to the problems. QUESTION | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| think that mutual exchange of ideas is the criterion, while at other times, it is the mutual | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| make the communication very deep. The only true criterion is how genuine you are, how open and | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| to receiving good feelings from others, is the criterion by which we can determine whether the chain | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| Critical....................9 | |
| nothing but subterfuges to avoid self-search. Use your critical faculties to detect the excuses you make only | 5 HAPPINESS FOR YOURSELF OR HAPPINESS AS A LINK IN THE CHAIN OF LIFE |
| next meditation, ask yourself whether you are too critical about others; whether you actually condemn them, even | 33 OCCUPATION WITH SELF -- RIGHT AND WRONG FAITH |
| is not too close to? One is less critical ... ANSWER: Why, of course. This is just the | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| daily mental activity, which goes on unobserved, without critical evaluation, so you are unaware of how your | 175 CONSCIOUSNESS: FASCINATION WITH CREATION |
| is the result of a wrong idea. A critical aspect of this work is the articulation of | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| any good; on the contrary, it increases the critical tension. The momentary relief is illusion of the | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| not defend yourself against unpleasant feelings by being critical and judgmental with each other. You thereby opened | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| wall between you and them. You make yourself critical of them and then you must feel that | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| and then you must feel that they are critical of you. In your mind they seem to | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| Criticism...................45 | |
| difficulties, your weaknesses and your problems, and receive criticism. The latter, of course, is equally healthy for | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| if you have the sincere conviction that the criticism is an injustice, try to evaluate it nonetheless | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| else you judge too harshly, even though the criticism in itself may be justified. The isolated fact | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| its real value, and the way a little criticism -- real, imagined, or implied -- can spoil | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| deep down that, no matter how unfounded the criticism in this case, you yourself criticize your lack | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| hurt. In this attitude you will not fear criticism or disapproval; your forcing current will dissolve. If | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| may discover in themselves a reaction of aloof criticism and contempt for all people who assert themselves | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| fulfillment, fearful souls will regard any minor rejection, criticism, or disapproval as such drastic danger that they | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| your mood. By the same token, any little criticism or disapproval may completely spoil your mood. It | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| lovable, faultless. In the second case, a little criticism makes you feel no good at all, at | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| you should be. On the other hand, disapproval, criticism, or failure are also final. Now, the world | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| consequently, crushed. Thus you are incapable of taking criticism in a constructive way. Yes, you may make | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| sign of maturity is the ability to take criticism and frustration in a relaxed, constructive way. Mature | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| likable without being perfect. They therefore know that criticism does not make them all bad and all | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| with what is feasible. In other words, when criticism comes your way or your will is frustrated | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| yourself, knowing that you are capable of taking criticism with flexibility and are able to learn from | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| and are able to learn from it. Thus criticism will not crush you; rather, will give you | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| yourself and others. Hence, you will not fear criticism, nor frustration, nor failure as if they were | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| counterfeits. Rigid, perfectionistic standards prohibit making mistakes, receiving criticism, experiencing failure. They point to your fallibility, which | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| you are bound to make occasional mistakes, receive criticism, and fail to have your wishes met. If | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| may make a wrong decision and thereby incur criticism or frustration, will plunge you into despair. All | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| in you are touched, or when you encounter criticism or disapproval. You will detect a hardening, a | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| believe, erroneously, that any hurt or frustration, any criticism or rejection is a danger you must guard | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| emotional hurt, rejection, frustration of your will, and criticism. When you feel accused of something true, half-true | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| If you translate your emotional reactions to such criticism, you will readily see that your feelings say | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| endangered or threatened because of hurt, frustration, or criticism? You, yourself, will have to verify that this | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| verify that this is not so. Even unjustified criticism cannot endanger you, provided your attitude toward it | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| and realistic. Is it not true that the criticism, against which you so strenuously defend yourself, often | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| error of believing yourself to be inadequate. The criticism would not damage you at all if you | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| evaluate: Could there be some truth in the criticism? Observe your inner reaction of fright. You will | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| that your fright is unjustified, even if the criticism is wrong. Nothing can happen to you; you | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| could you be? You would simply evaluate the criticism and decide whether there may be some truth | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| you have to get annoyed? What can this criticism do to you that causes annoyance? Have you | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| from this point of view? Justified or unjustified criticism cannot really harm you, unless you think you | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| does not want to deal with obstructions, frustrations, criticism. It will tell you that you wish just | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| that an outer event -- be it rejection, criticism, or loss -- can cause suffering, one is | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| may be unable to stand any form of criticism, even if it is unjustified. What these two | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| of myself. Whenever I feel threatened by rejection, criticism, frustration of my immediate desires, I at once | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| attitude, just because you might experience frustration, delay, criticism, or the negativity of others. I think most | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| reaction to an unfulfillment, to a hurt, a criticism, or a frustration. It is then possible to | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| it, even if it may expose you to criticism. Strength, self-trust and security come as a result | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| leadership is the willingness to risk exposure and criticism. If you fear and guard against it, and | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| they wish to assume the risks of exposure, criticism, slander and hostility that those in the limelight | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| to make others understand and to use their criticism as a tool to explore the reality of | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |
| hiding. If your self-revealing seems to elicit more criticism and censure than love and understanding, I would | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |
| Criticize...................6 | |
| their imperfections, even though they may see and criticize the imperfections of others all the time. This | 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW |
| unfounded the criticism in this case, you yourself criticize your lack of courage to help mature the | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| always the truth. Productive love sometimes has to criticize. Whether this applies to another person or to | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| feelings of another. They do not disapprove or criticize. They demand a minimum of personal sacrifice or | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| to have power over you, because they can criticize you, they can reject you, and in that | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| level. So when others doubt you, distrust you, criticize you in any way, on the surface you | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| Criticized..................13 | |
| with those who make them feel unloved and criticized, or at least insecure. Their severity is a | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| Then he feels safe, because he is not criticized. Also, he does not like to be separate | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| you must hide them because you would be criticized and therefore not loved. So you develop a | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| what if we get annoyed at being unjustly criticized? ANSWER: The very feeling of annoyance is the | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| be loved and respected if something to be criticized is found in you. QUESTION: What if it | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| shyness, uncertainty, insecurity, apprehension about being rejected or criticized, as well as feelings of inferiority and inadequacy | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| of self-assertion, which accepts the risk of being criticized, leads to an openness of mind that can | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| to be spared all frustration, to never be criticized, to be always loved and loved your way | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| because he or she insists on never being criticized or frustrated. But if you can deal with | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| example: When you are attacked or judged or criticized or rejected, as long as you operate with | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| unaware of it when you are not being criticized. You seem centered when you receive praise and | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| cannot bear the momentary pain of being misunderstood, criticized -- rightly or wrongly -- then you do | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| not be understood, or I will be unjustly criticized. This, of course, is not valid. For if | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |