| Conform.....................34 | |
| becomes healthy again, if your inner reactions can conform to spiritual law. Only then will you be | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| find out that the inner will does not conform with the outer one. To find out such | 29 THE FORCES OF ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY -- FINDING GOD'S WILL |
| be surprised when you discover that your image-conclusions conform not at all to your otherwise grown-up intelligence | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| good deeds one performs mainly in order to conform and to gain admiration. The other alternative is | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| will find that in many cases they may conform with the divine law, while in some they | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| opinions not your own is a desire to conform. The desire for conformity has a few subdivisions | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| the opposite opinion. Because your desire does not conform to public opinion, you are convinced of its | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| them that you agree with them, that you conform with public opinion or the opinion of certain | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| longing to be loved. The frequent tendency to conform, to be the obedient child, is part of | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| be of your own making and not necessarily conform to public opinion. Both alternatives leave you utterly | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| difficult either to have the courage not to conform to fixed rules, or not to rebel against | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| the outcome of this work is first, to conform to a rule, and second, to become like | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| of truth, do not seek to make you conform, appease, bow down, and accept something against your | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| be selfish, vain, unloving, and cowardly. One may conform to all the rules and regulations of Church | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| even if your actions are entirely proper and conform to the commandments. The final authority is not | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| to know to what extent do mature people conform with the society in which they live? ANSWER | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| of fear of rejection, mature people will not conform at all. But that does not mean that | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| may do so out of insecurity, needing to conform, or out of the freedom to choose this | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| differently out of rebellion, their underlying need to conform is exposed. They rebel against the need and | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| value system, or they may be unpleasurable yet conform to the temporary value system. However, if you | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| act according to true values only because they conform to the temporary value system and remain unaware | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| being, as between humankind and the individual. They conform to identical laws of living and growing. This | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| self-expression. Effort, against one's will, in order to conform, to get approval or ward off disapproval, or | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| you feel cornered and lean on authority; you conform, without ever using your own resources and your | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| behavior aims to please or impress others, to conform with outer standards. Moralizing always tends to show | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| with it whether or not it seems to conform with outer expectations, rules, and values. As long | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| no longer fear when your life does not conform to convention. Soon outer life will follow suit | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| it in themselves. Even if they do not conform to small-minded and life-denying views, the deep inner | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| world of duality. To the extent you merely conform by taking for granted what others say, you | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| with the tendency to submit to others, to conform and appease, which you do solely to gain | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| well know, need to be covered up to conform with society's standards. Thus you become further alienated | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| be oneself, to be perhaps different, to not conform, to become more self-responsible. This phase is now | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| individual needs, the less you need from or conform to the group. The freer your love and | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| real fulfillment, your true longing. It may not conform to the appearance values you have borrowed. Many | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| Conforming..................12 | |
| hold on to others' opinions. Another motive for conforming and therefore not daring to seek one's own | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| want to make up for the rebellion by conforming to your environment in other ways. Still another | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| circumstances do you eliminate possibly wrong desires by conforming outwardly, by adopting the opposite opinion out of | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| thus just as much in bondage as by conforming. You are just as dependent. Now you can | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| they live? ANSWER: If we use the word conforming in the sense in which it is usually | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| they have to make a show of not conforming. Conformists often find it necessary to rebel and | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| the need to identify with someone more powerful. Conforming can occur under the guise of nonconformity, especially | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| one must cling to the superimposed conscience, obeying, conforming, appeasing, and blindly following it. Never developing the | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| and permissiveness to compensate for their latent hostility. Conforming to the new rules may outwardly appear as | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| well as by the guilt for not really conforming to present values, the pleasurable indulgence and permissiveness | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| on all levels of being. Fear of not conforming to the social environment is another aspect of | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| the expense of others, out of fear of conforming, of losing individuality? And is it not just | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| Conformity..................21 | |
| your deeds, your words, and your thoughts in conformity with spiritual law, but also your emotions. You | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| is a desire to conform. The desire for conformity has a few subdivisions. For instance, the child | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| else. In this case your motive is not conformity but the exact opposite. It is defiance, rebellion | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| detect that subtle little tendency which strives for conformity with others; you will discover the weakness embodied | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| rebel against rigid principles, against perfectionism and against conformity, that is compatible with acceptance of the inevitable | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| Harry Golden wrote something to the effect that conformity is not living in a house similar to | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| think this is probably an adequate explanation of conformity. Now, I would like to know to what | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| can serve individuals as means to identify with. Conformity is a consequence of the need to identify | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| free, and, according to all appearances, they defy conformity. But whenever the stringent need to prove something | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| with others because of a weak ego is conformity to public opinion, parroting the views of others | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| Hence, no matter how much people rebel against conformity and social laws, they still find themselves confined | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| ego-self, deeply immersed in its dualistic struggle between conformity and the submission it requires, versus rebellion and | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| emancipation from the ego's outer rules requires neither conformity nor rebellion. It acts on inner values that | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| se. It is always tainted by cowardice, a conformity to a specific group of people the individual | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| a place of pride. The cowardice that feeds conformity is the same as the pride that feeds | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| away without effort. Cowardice, in its compliance and conformity, self-negation and denial of truth, opportunism and betrayal | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| and independence, a fighting spirit against submission to conformity. Only in its distorted version does it become | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| individuation; instead, it imposes a blind following and conformity. The halting of the movement creates a perversion | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| Such people will have a stake in confusing conformity and mass consciousness with group consciousness and will | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| the same time stiff, rigid, unvaried in their conformity and dullness. Individualistic as they seem, they lack | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| diversity existed on outer levels, while uniformity and conformity often existed within the personality, wiping out true | 238 THE PULSE OF LIFE ON ALL LEVELS OF MANIFESTATION |
| Conforms....................8 | |
| wants to grab, the other because the child conforms and obeys, rather than acting out of conviction | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| course, the morrow never comes. The reality never conforms to the fantasy that has been laboriously prepared | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| as in the universe. Every universe in creation conforms to the average state of the entities inhabiting | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| does not show whether or not a person conforms. This is determined by the inner spirit, the | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| is momentarily pleasurable or unpleasurable, or with what conforms or is contrary to temporary, superimposed values. You | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| also say yes to something unpleasant because it conforms to the superimposed, arbitrary value system you often | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| know this is right for me, whether it conforms with others or not. They will also be | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| is at stake. They believe that only what conforms to tradition, to the past, is of any | 246 TRADITION: ITS DIVINE AND DISTORTED ASPECTS |
| Confront....................61 | |
| through solving hitherto unresolved problems. You need to confront a problem instead of avoiding it like an | 2 DECISIONS AND TESTS |
| at all, you must take pains to honestly confront yourself, bring the unconscious into consciousness, and commit | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| fusion with another being touches them, they will confront this longing and tell themselves: I have so | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| from real problems you do not want to confront; on the other you find in such pleasant | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| that. You, however, taught us not only to confront our faults, but also to fight them. Yet | 7 ASKING FOR HELP AND HELPING OTHERS |
| contradiction. It is a question of how to confront faults. Many people like to wallow in their | 7 ASKING FOR HELP AND HELPING OTHERS |
| this road. Two types of stumbling blocks may confront you when you come across new recognitions and | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| middle. Having to choose between everyday alternatives that confront you often generates confusion. These alternatives are not | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| ambitiousness, drives, and compulsions. In addition, these often confront one with obligations which may only be necessary | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| the greater the unconscious craving becomes. Unconsciously, you confront the alternatives of safety or pleasure. For, in | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| and understand in yourself all there is to confront and comprehend. Then you will experience the exhilaration | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| applies specifically to you. Then challenge yourself to confront the issue of discussing it openly. Observe the | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| makes it possible for you to reach and confront these depths of your being. May you summon | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| first. The insecurity, the fear of having to confront life alone -- hence the fear of life | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| level that holds the opposite and truthful view. Confront this egotistic concept with the deeper knowledge that | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| are engaged in intense self-search, when you vigorously confront yourself and face truth upon truth, setting up | 144 THE PROCESS AND SIGNIFICANCE OF GROWING |
| flow. If you go deep enough and truly confront the fear dispassionately, you must always recognize that | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| predominant approach in the pathwork must be to confront the true state of your feelings and concepts | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| Or, on the other side, how can you confront, accept, and admit those negative, destructive traits, weaknesses | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| the key that will enable you to squarely confront the undesirable attitudes, without in the least losing | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| For once you face the naked destructiveness, you confront a truth in yourself, which gives you an | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| disregard the clamoring of their inner voice may confront deep crises in their lives. Many crises can | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| to consolidate your voluntary faculties to identify and confront the specific disunity of the moment. The inner | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| or not you verbally express your perception and confront the other person. Only to the degree that | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| to give it up. Once you choose to confront your negativity you must acknowledge its indirect manifestations | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| that leaves you free, that permits you to confront them, that is effective. It has no adverse | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| should not exist in me, you can then confront your attitude toward evil in a much better | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| meditation in such areas. This obstruction, when you confront it, is an invaluable indicator of your dividedness | 186 VENTURE IN MUTUALITY: HEALING FORCE TO CHANGE NEGATIVE INNER WILL |
| self does not take up the challenge to confront the negative aspects. The demoniacal, destructive aspects are | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| to be aware of this underlying doubt and confront its real nature. Having your doubts in the | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| and pride will often dissolve fear. You must confront and squarely face these issues. Only thus can | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| you are totally identified with it, you cannot confront and test it. But the moment you observe | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| what you inflict upon yourself -- can you confront this attitude in yourself. Have a dialogue with | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| it from yourself than any other reaction. Rather, confront these thoughts and again use honesty and intelligence | 194 MEDITATION: LAWS AND VARIOUS APPROACHES-SUMMARY (MEDITATION AS POSITIVE LIFE CREATION) |
| to admit what is evil, I want to confront myself and dispense with the pretenses, which are | 197 ENERGY AND CONSCIOUSNESS IN DISTORTION: EVIL |
| be admitted first; but then the mind must confront and counter them, understand and correct them. If | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| into the middle of the circle and honestly confront each other. Another way may be for one | 200 THE COSMIC FEELING |
| it squarely. When you see it, you can confront yourself about why you want to hold on | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| until the mind and the will decide to confront the issue profoundly, once and for all, and | 205 ORDER AS A UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE |
| for avoiding is literally insanity. However, if you confront what you would rather avoid, the golden point | 205 ORDER AS A UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE |
| it paralyzes your courage to speak up and confront a situation that requires improvement. How then can | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| It depends on your ability to risk, to confront, to admit your most guarded secret, and as | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| not prepared to resolve. Whatever the obstruction is, confront it, explore it, understand and dissolve it. If | 208 THE INNATE HUMAN CAPACITY TO CREATE |
| as you let these two levels meet and confront one another, a still deeper level will manifest | 209 THE ROSCOE LECTURE: INSPIRATION FOR THE PATHWORK CENTER |
| Take now the third stage in which you confront your moods. You all have been in situations | 211 OUTER EVENTS REFLECT SELF-CREATION -- THREE STAGES |
| everyone was initially an angel. How can you confront this devil? All of you have made substantial | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| have all the bliss imaginable. If you can confront your doubts that the best could indeed be | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| to yourself for your decisions and trust and confront these issues, even if you manage not to | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| inner reality. Question and challenge your negative voice. Confront it. Identify it without being identified with it | 220 REAWAKENING FROM PRE-INCARNATORY ANESTHESIA |
| of fear, question its lack of faith, and confront it sincerely. Then the ongoing voice of God | 220 REAWAKENING FROM PRE-INCARNATORY ANESTHESIA |
| reins and be aware of that outer will: Confront it; counter it. Do not allow it to | 222 TRANSFORMATION OF THE LOWER SELF |
| that you be aware of this, that you confront it and do not allow it to take | 228 BALANCE |
| being at a total loss. For you truly confront a wall which you cannot penetrate as yet | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| ask for the strength to be able to confront this place in myself and find the strength | 235 THE ANATOMY OF CONTRACTION |
| be in truth, to face the truth, to confront the worst in you and to transform it | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| not fulfilled now, I have the courage to confront myself and find out the meaning. The meaning | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| it is to abuse this freedom unless you confront your real, hidden motives constantly and conscientiously. How | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| apparently menial, mundane issues. You may have to confront actively the resistance to changes that are so | 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA |
| find yourself terrified because your friends and helpers confront you, when you defend against even the possibility | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| the opposite end of it. But as you confront your real feelings, as opposed to your illusion | 253 CONTINUE YOUR STRUGGLE AND CEASE ALL STRUGGLE |
| you are able and willing to see and confront it, the moment has come to transform your | 258 PERSONAL CONTACT WITH JESUS CHRIST-POSITIVE AGGRESSION-REAL MEANING OF SALVATION |