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| by the other. It will happen in an unhealthy way, out of weakness and fear, not out | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| intellect than in their feelings, but since the unhealthy feelings cannot adapt themselves to the healthy, conscious | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| least in those areas where the soul is unhealthy. Indeed, immaturity is a childish quality, because it | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| unimportant detail is often the root of all unhealthy currents in the soul. You, however, do not | 5 HAPPINESS FOR YOURSELF OR HAPPINESS AS A LINK IN THE CHAIN OF LIFE |
| they do not want to comprehend them for unhealthy emotional reasons -- must become increasingly unhappy with | 5 HAPPINESS FOR YOURSELF OR HAPPINESS AS A LINK IN THE CHAIN OF LIFE |
| the purification of your soul, the more the unhealthy currents will get entangled in the unconscious, and | 5 HAPPINESS FOR YOURSELF OR HAPPINESS AS A LINK IN THE CHAIN OF LIFE |
| to accept yourself as you still are is unhealthy. Whoever feels the truth of these words should | 7 ASKING FOR HELP AND HELPING OTHERS |
| split and repression which give rise to the unhealthy soul currents. You may act right because your | 7 ASKING FOR HELP AND HELPING OTHERS |
| your own guilt. Humans tend to produce false, unhealthy, exaggerated guilt feelings which are not justified. The | 9 PRAYER AND MEDITATION -- THE LORD'S PRAYER |
| faults and weaknesses but also to anxieties and unhealthy currents -- the more the person fears self-surrender | 10 MALE AND FEMALE INCARNATIONS: THEIR RHYTHMS AND CAUSES |
| is always a sign that there is something unhealthy in the soul. Eventually this must be healed | 10 MALE AND FEMALE INCARNATIONS: THEIR RHYTHMS AND CAUSES |
| to have no self-illusions than to create this unhealthy and sickly aura. QUESTION: How is it possible | 14 THE HIGHER SELF, THE LOWER SELF, AND THE MASK |
| without guilt feelings and self-abuse. The latter are unhealthy and unproductive. You must learn to take yourself | 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS |
| state of mind that is not only extremely unhealthy, as I outlined just now, but will also | 31 SHAME |
| emotions. You should understand that overambitiousness creates an unhealthy desire current that runs in a wrong way | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| in the other. For it is your own unhealthy grain of untruth that robs you of peace | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| is bound to it. Either way may be unhealthy. Either way may also be mature and harmonious | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| can safely generalize -- avoidance of partnership is unhealthy. It is an escape. The real reason is | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| direction. Wherever such lack of balance exists, other unhealthy and harmful currents prevail, and the balance has | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| that leads a person to all sorts of unhealthy reactions, symptoms, endeavors, manipulations of emotions, and even | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| more and more strained and tense with weak, unhealthy, and completely immature motives. Since this need can | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| can one draw the line between healthy and unhealthy self-love? What would you call unhealthy? ANSWER: I | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| healthy and unhealthy self-love? What would you call unhealthy? ANSWER: I think, my dear, that this was | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| must always exist. Masochism arises out of the unhealthy reason of compulsive submission in order to get | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| price for living. This is healthy. It is unhealthy if you let God make the decisions for | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| relatively healthy restrictive principle and yet a comparatively unhealthy static one? ANSWER: Then the word relative would | 55 THREE COSMIC PRINCIPLES: THE EXPANDING, THE RESTRICTING, AND THE STATIC PRINCIPLES |
| God! 56. CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE Greetings, God bless all of | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| us determine the difference between the healthy and unhealthy motives in desires. We will not concern ourselves | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| with the motives of desires which are obviously unhealthy because they are destructive. Instead, we will delve | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| a perfectly legitimate desire, yet it may be unhealthy. Unhealthy and tense desires are always linked with | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| perfectly legitimate desire, yet it may be unhealthy. Unhealthy and tense desires are always linked with fear | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| what makes desires healthy and what makes them unhealthy. One rule is that whenever you desire something | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| a means to an end, it may be unhealthy. If this is the case, your desire automatically | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| sake of enjoying that state, there is nothing unhealthy about it, even though many of you may | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| an inherent feeling of inferiority, then it is unhealthy: then it becomes a need for something other | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| need. The more unconscious the motive, the more unhealthy the desire, and the more it will stand | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| suffices to twist your motives and make them unhealthy. Hence your fulfillment is blocked, your wish capacity | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| conscious desire, even though this desire may contain unhealthy motives in addition to healthy and conscious ones | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| you will also find wrong, impure, selfish, and unhealthy motives in your desires that are not directed | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| from being used by your unconscious, immature, and unhealthy reactions. For if you use it so it | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| distortion can happen by associating this concept with unhealthy self-blame, guilt, and inferiority feelings. In other words | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| harmful and are the result of the same unhealthy basic misconception. Let us go back to this | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| unselfish love can easily be distorted by the unhealthy desire to suffer which we will discuss in | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| aspects of unhappiness can be enjoyed in an unhealthy way, there are bound to be others that | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| Thus it is lived out in an extremely unhealthy and damaging way. The psyche argues: Since I | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| expectation, since it approaches so very much the unhealthy attitude of looking for pain that is in | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| you come out of inviting pain in an unhealthy way, and thus steadily, though slowly, you will | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| not have this clearly as its aim is unhealthy. This should be understood by all who seek | 59 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| same with a repressed passive current, where an unhealthy, compulsive activity is superimposed. Both sexes have been | 59 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| rebellion and misunderstanding and must therefore be equally unhealthy and false. They must also lead back to | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| and dependence. When healthy motives are muddled with unhealthy ones and one does not recognize this fact | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| without the other will always result in an unhealthy exaggeration, in a stalemate, in something harmful. Only | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| be truly beneficial. It would only affect an unhealthy, superimposed, and equally ungenuine layer of the man | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| the motives are wrong, the underlying feelings are unhealthy. One may even resist an untruth out of | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| short, you can resist an untruth out of unhealthy emotions, as well as accept a truth out | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| as well as accept a truth out of unhealthy emotions. The requirement always and foremost should be | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you, based on healthy motives, rather than on unhealthy ones. Other people are bound to benefit from | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of such misconceptions, you act from erroneous and unhealthy motives from which no one can truly benefit | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| which is relatively small or not disturbed by unhealthy motives. Your inner will is still kept from | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| the better your inner will can function. The unhealthy psyche is always confused, not only about others | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| healthy and good motive and partly to the unhealthy one. The latter always creates compulsion. Thus, guilt | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| divided state your inner will cannot penetrate the unhealthy layers. What you outwardly wish you inwardly question | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| the strength of the outer will is always unhealthy. It is a poor substitute. It is full | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| will can be composed of healthy motives too. Unhealthy motives, such as self- importance, pride, vanity, or | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| the need to heal your soul of all unhealthy and erroneous attitudes and reactions. It is important | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| will be well advised to look into the unhealthy motives which can exist side by side with | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| you desire unless you free yourself of the unhealthy and erroneous motives may give you a renewed | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| your desire may be justified, but many unconscious, unhealthy motives may exist together with the healthy ones | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| which can come from healthy, as well as unhealthy motives. This outer will can succeed if it | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| this very problem. Therefore, I say it is unhealthy, because the actual contact would not really help | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| may not be conscious, then it furthers something unhealthy and makes for a confused approach to this | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| area of your emotional life, may affect an unhealthy current and may add to a distortion, so | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| who is too good a subject may possess unhealthy currents. It may be an indication of some | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| others' approval? Or was the wish based on unhealthy motives in the first place? Was there underneath | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| in the first place? Was there underneath the unhealthy motives a very healthy one you could not | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| and your guilt about the existence of the unhealthy motives? Would you have had the courage to | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| to follow through with your desire if the unhealthy motives had been absent? Would you then have | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| disappears or weakens with the absence of the unhealthy motives? You can try to formulate and answer | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| first whether you desired this goal because of unhealthy motives, or whether the unhealthy motives merely covered | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| goal because of unhealthy motives, or whether the unhealthy motives merely covered the form of self-expression best | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| is the case, it is always due to unhealthy tendencies and reactions. When you face your lower | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| feeling simple sadness that will never have an unhealthy effect on your soul, you will contribute greatly | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| how to distinguish between healthy, mature love and unhealthy, immature, dependent and weak love which is not | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| about making this desire come true is unrealistic, unhealthy, and damaging, not the desire itself. Are there | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| clearly, you must love me. Weaker persons with unhealthy motives of their own may appear to give | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| misconception that the masochistic tendency to allow the unhealthy instincts of others to hurt you is proof | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Either you are submissive, which you feel is unhealthy for all concerned and has no more to | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| is reality. To the degree that you are unhealthy, you are in unreality. You do not see | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| the now can be done in the childish, unhealthy way, as well as in the mature, constructive | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| your psyche, and weakening the aspects that are unhealthy, childish, and resistant. After all, God lives deep | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| destroyed. This is decidedly different from the psychological, unhealthy, destructive fears we generally discuss in our work | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| to be self-responsible. On the other hand, an unhealthy fear is generated, which always happens when maturity | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| yourself in a very healthy way, the smoldering, unhealthy drive and force will be taken out of | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| the motivations for faithfulness may be just as unhealthy and immature as the motivations which lead a | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| and feel that way, it is the most unhealthy part in your being that speaks: the child | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| humanity, so that one day the cure of unhealthy currents, similar to this pathwork, will be a | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| the former is actually the reason for the unhealthy impact and subsequent rejection. Once you fully understand | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| is there. The stronger the craving and the unhealthy exaggeration, the more likely it is that you | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| isolation, or who aggressively antagonizes people, shows an unhealthy, uncaring, false independence that comes from and also | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| that comes from and also leads to more unhealthy dependence and need. Such inner behavior, no matter | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| get his own need fulfilled. Why is this unhealthy or wrong? ANSWER: Such a relationship can exist | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| as the core of right communication. Such an unhealthy relationship is based on bargaining and the interplay | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| be a very fine line separating healthy and unhealthy dependence, as well as healthy and unhealthy independence | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| and unhealthy dependence, as well as healthy and unhealthy independence. How can we distinguish between the two | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| a relationship together, and that this need is unhealthy. But it seems to me that it is | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| love me. Otherwise it would be much more unhealthy. ANSWER: My dear friend, you are very much | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| lack of mutuality is only present in an unhealthy situation based on immature craving instead of free | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| has a spiritual origin, then why is it unhealthy? Part of the answer is that it is | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| up of the wish itself is really an unhealthy acceptance of death. As you become stronger in | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| little more clearly how healthy acceptance differs from unhealthy acceptance, for instance in a martyr? ANSWER: The | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| acceptance, for instance in a martyr? ANSWER: The unhealthy way contains, above all, a spirit of defeatism | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| But there are also imaginary, superimposed, and therefore unhealthy ways of doing this, and these are illusions | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| the unpleasant principle, except in terms of an unhealthy attitude. ANSWER: Once you have arrived at that | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| and you cringe from suffering in the wrong, unhealthy way, you increase the tragic duality. You reject | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| choose what you don't want, you create an unhealthy, deadening condition within your soul. It is unhealthy | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| unhealthy, deadening condition within your soul. It is unhealthy because you do not honestly acknowledge to yourself | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| getting love and life eternal. This condition is unhealthy because you deny yourself what you actually could | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| is not genuinely yours, it is much more unhealthy than admitting an unbelief. That is just one | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| experienced only if the soul is healthy. An unhealthy soul is incapable of experiencing pleasure. At the | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| At the same time, if a person heals unhealthy aspects and attitudes of the personality, that person | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| often is, entirely misunderstood and is a very unhealthy phenomenon. It can be a distorted and harmful | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| it as weakness, vulnerability, and dependency in an unhealthy sense. Such a person entirely overlooks the fact | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| to squander yourself into life, not in an unhealthy, unreasonable way, but healthily as nature squanders herself | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| healthy soul considers safe differs from what the unhealthy, immature soul considers safe. The unhealthy soul experiences | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| what the unhealthy, immature soul considers safe. The unhealthy soul experiences any rejection -- withholding of love | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| do not realize that any pseudo-solution produces an unhealthy dependence on others, regardless of how bent they | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| little child. Since God does not reward such unhealthy attitudes, you must feel cheated. You cannot help | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| either tendency can be healthy as well as unhealthy. An integrated human being needs both companionship and | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| words, is the peace a result of an unhealthy passivity? Does it contain elements of giving up | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| order to make a go of life? Such unhealthy passivity is as much an indication of distortion | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| as much an indication of distortion as an unhealthy overactivity, haste, pressure, and compulsion. The truth combines | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| If you would, it would happen out of unhealthy motives, just as much as the opposite. Learn | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| intertwine and overlap. Not only do the superimposed, unhealthy, and artificially created needs of the idealized self | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| in itself healthy need has been repressed, some unhealthy factors must have become attached to it. This | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| at the expense of gaining love, is an unhealthy need. Now, why do I say at the | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| its false strength, defiance, and cruelty; of the unhealthy guilt and self-accusation in false repentance; of the | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| is a healthy kind as well as an unhealthy, destructive kind. Your confusion here arises out of | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| independent decision and full conviction, the motives are unhealthy and will not yield constructive results. The motives | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| question by saying it is either healthy or unhealthy. It depends entirely on how it is felt | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| utterly healthy. But it may also contain certain unhealthy currents. This is very hard to determine in | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| such a separation, then there must be an unhealthy grief, perhaps in addition to healthy grief. But | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| rebellion and frenzy your incentive for growth. These unhealthy, self- destructive emotions have to disappear before you | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| healthy part responds to real life, while the unhealthy part in you responds to illusion with illusion | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| -- and this by no means implies the unhealthy submissiveness that is born out of fear of | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| present uncertainty. Investigate the motivations, both healthy and unhealthy, and ask yourself why you desired what you | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| find a curious mixture of the healthy and unhealthy. You will find that, partly, your motivations in | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| perfectionism, so that both the healthy and the unhealthy motivations contributed to the unfulfillment, or the failure | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| failure. You chose the goal out of partly unhealthy motives, and you prohibited yourself from reaching the | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| yourself from reaching the goal entirely out of unhealthy motives. This may appear like a paradox, but | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| The needs, on the other hand, may become unhealthy wants. QUESTION: If a person does not daydream | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| daydreams, at the expense of actual living, is unhealthy. Now I am telling you that not to | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| you that not to daydream may also be unhealthy and a symptom of unresolved problems. Nevertheless, this | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| it is also possible that such reverence is unhealthy and false. If it comes from fear, guilt | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| pleasure out of pain in a very wrong, unhealthy, self-defeating, and life-defeating way. Giving in and going | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| and assimilate all that first. Then what is unhealthy and unrealistic can be dissolved, what is immature | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| defense. Often when the two defenses intermingle, the unhealthy weakens and undermines the healthy one and diminishes | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| ANSWER: Yes, that is right. You see, your unhealthy emotional involvement makes it impossible for you to | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| itself. Healthy anger feels very different from the unhealthy kind. Unhealthy anger poisons your system. It calls | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| anger feels very different from the unhealthy kind. Unhealthy anger poisons your system. It calls forth your | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| less confused, then it is a healthy anger. Unhealthy anger is always a displacement of an original | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| a feeling, in itself constructive, may have an unhealthy effect. It depends on the many intricacies of | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| to see this basic selfishness and self-concern as unhealthy. Sloth is one of the defense-mechanisms I have | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| wisdom. The wisdom, however, lies not in the unhealthy attitude of making yourself a small sinner, of | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| factors may play a role. Even distorted and unhealthy motives, when finally brought out into the open | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| will, and the various manifestations of healthy and unhealthy willpower. Let us now see another of the | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| produces a thick haze in your psyche, an unhealthy climate that hinders your self-expression. If it is | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| that hinders your self-expression. If it is an unhealthy wish, you cannot cope with it because you | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| opposed to sadness, is a very stifling, frustrating, unhealthy feeling. Let us clearly see exactly what is | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| feeling. Let us clearly see exactly what is unhealthy. Take self-pity, which is always a byproduct of | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| is always a byproduct of depression. It is unhealthy because it is unfounded. There is always a | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| forcing current upon the world. Furthermore, depression is unhealthy because you passively remain unchanged, falsely accepting what | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| truly cannot be changed. All these characterize the unhealthy state of depression. The example of loss through | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| the desire for variety may indicate healthy or unhealthy motives. Often it is a combination of both | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| may be a necessary, temporary reaction to an unhealthy submissiveness, to the craving for affection, or to | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| relationship exists, then, needless to say, it indicates unhealthy trends. But if variety is sought because of | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| saying yes to it. And there is the unhealthy version, the distortion, in which one wishes merely | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| life at all. Only when you determine this unhealthy desire concisely, and acknowledge it without self-deception, can | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| if you have recognized that such submissiveness is unhealthy, emotionally you cannot yet experience the strong connection | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| any aspect is good or bad, healthy or unhealthy as such. Every aspect exists in a healthy | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| healthy and genuine, as well as in an unhealthy and false way. But let us first go | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| to confuse real, healthy, free sacrifice with its unhealthy, compulsive, ungenuine counterpart. If sacrifice occurs out of | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| is very important to receive the healthy and unhealthy reactions of the soul-substance in this light. The | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| a healthy soul looks like compared to an unhealthy one, as seen from our vantage point. In | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| for new impressions and new experiences. In the unhealthy soul the soul form is bumpy, uneven in | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| work many of you have glimpsed that all unhealthy reactions are artificial. They are much more difficult | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| The latter may exist in a healthy or unhealthy way. Karma, as you know, is the result | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| peace. Be in God! 114. STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY Greetings, my dearest friends. God's blessings for each | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| there is healthy and constructive as well as unhealthy and destructive struggle. Various philosophies and religions ask | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| block the flow of your emotions. This is unhealthy struggle. If only you would give it up | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| register negative emotions, you will know that an unhealthy struggle must also be going on. In some | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| This is the healthy struggle to overcome the unhealthy struggle against self- awareness. Learn to discover the | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| you will experience the difference between healthy and unhealthy struggle. If there is doubt in you, and | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| then you have nothing to fear from them. Unhealthy struggle is resistance, and it is futile because | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| what underlies it. The wrong attitude is the unhealthy struggle against the fear. Struggling in the sense | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| may hide his wish to escape under an unhealthy preoccupation with an abstract God-idea that could anyway | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| its own beautiful, healthy way. The healthy and unhealthy trends are intertwined and the personality is thrown | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| and healthy aggression is the same as his unhealthy aggression and hostility -- the result of an | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| work to understand and resolve images, misconceptions, distorted unhealthy attitudes, in short, everything breeding problems in your | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| the necessity to do so -- creates an unhealthy climate that makes the healthiest emotional need into | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| expressing his healthy, masculine aggressiveness, confusing it with unhealthy, hostile aggressiveness. He finds himself in the following | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| helplessness of self-surrender by exerting an artificial and unhealthy control, she becomes even more helpless, while at | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| separate the healthy part of yourself from the unhealthy, confused, involved part. Detached observation of something obscure | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| in itself is right or wrong, healthy or unhealthy, constructive or destructive. It is the same with | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| than the event itself. If none of these unhealthy aspects existed, one would live through the pain | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| you reverse one so that it becomes an unhealthy childish distortion, the other will follow suit. The | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| would be demonstrating healthy assertion without deviating into unhealthy aggressiveness or hostility. Nor will you be confused | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| then may take the form of pretending that unhealthy anger is the healthy version. The cause cannot | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| determine whether the emotion elicited is healthy or unhealthy anger. The cause may entirely justify real, genuine | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| case. Yet, the anger experienced may be the unhealthy kind because of the personality's unresolved problems, insecurity | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| destruction -- whether the anger be healthy or unhealthy. Healthy anger, since it comes from the real | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| up of the little self also exists in unhealthy states such as those brought about by sickness | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| lost because it is too weak, it is unhealthy. But when you have gained a healthy ego | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| can happen in a distorted, unbalanced, and therefore unhealthy manner. First of all, let us be clear | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| quality; the more one needs them, the stronger unhealthy striving becomes and the further one gets from | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| actually capable of totally letting go of your unhealthy intensity, the mere awareness and understanding of its | 151 INTENSITY: AN OBSTACLE TO SELF-REALIZATION |
| again and again, that this is quite possible. Unhealthy desires and negative emotions exist indeed. They are | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| in a destructive line of least resistance, maintaining unhealthy attitudes. Then, letting go leads away from the | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| to let go of the ego in an unhealthy way. This is one of the dualities that | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| self and forego its best interests. Such an unhealthy ego is striving for the precise opposite of | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| well as from perpetual unpleasure, may lead to unhealthy ego liberation and insanity, since the liberated ego | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| your own way. You claim that an arrogant, unhealthy pride is self-love, when inwardly you merely wish | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| spirit. You then try to adjust to an unhealthy condition, in the assumption that to rebel against | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| borne of the organism's overall health. For the unhealthy organism could tolerate the life-defeating attitudes much longer | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| contribute to others. In the process of removing unhealthy conditions that are a result of false beliefs | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| Each alternative may be healthy and productive or unhealthy and destructive. The following examples will help to | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| for example, when they merely cover up the unhealthy distortion of it. By the same token, how | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| on the particular errors of the person. The unhealthy distortion of the self-sufficient person is the recluse | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| -- which are also behind the flaccidity of unhealthy forms of apparent relaxation. Once you can bring | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| or if it is, then only in an unhealthy way, as a reward to the good child | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| self- assertion with hostility, or flexible compromise with unhealthy submission. These are the aspects which determine the | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| you do not desire to see yourself. Such unhealthy, distorted desire, contrary to the truth of being | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| never a sentimental giving in to neurotic and unhealthy demands. It is true giving. And in giving | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| able to differentiate between the healthy and the unhealthy attitude toward group and individual consciousness. They cannot | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |