| you are true to yourself, you cannot be selfish, but you will be unselfish in the healthy | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| desired result may be so immature and truly selfish as to overshadow the good and healthy motives | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| time you are happy, whether you were actually selfish or not. This guilt is bound to afflict | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| were taught that it is wrong to be selfish, you feel you must suppress your selfish desire | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| be selfish, you feel you must suppress your selfish desire. You fail to distinguish whether your desires | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| fail to distinguish whether your desires are actually selfish or not, and you indiscriminately suppress all desires | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| the belief that all desires for happiness are selfish, you do not dare to desire at all | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| from the other, you lump together the really selfish with the really healthy desires which have nothing | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| desires aim for happiness and wanting happiness is selfish, I must suppress all desires. You do not | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| out they continue their existence underground. The really selfish desires in your unconscious make you feel guilty | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| desires and impulses, the childish and therefore actually selfish ones cannot mature and refine themselves. This can | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| and healthy desires and impulses, which are not selfish in the least, cannot find fulfillment. You are | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| down by the unconscious conclusion that something is selfish merely because it makes you happy. This is | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| be very pleasant to be allowed to be selfish. This notion gets a foothold within you, and | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| you, and you unconsciously believe that to be selfish would bring you happiness, but alas, you are | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| stated in this way: If I could be selfish, I could do anything I wanted. That would | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| loved when you are happy, for happiness is selfish according to this erroneous concept. There is unhappiness | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| sometimes actually acting out your most childish and selfish impulses rather than your legitimate and healthy ones | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| for your experiment. The drastic examples are the selfish impulses. Only by a growing awareness and conscious | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| be happier if you were allowed to be selfish. Whether this misconception exists in your conscious or | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| not everything that makes you happy is automatically selfish and damaging to another merely because it makes | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| can you discriminate and judge which one is selfish and which one is not. As to the | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| When it still seems to you that the selfish act would be more desirable, contemplate the following | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| you have to make a choice between a selfish and an unselfish act. The unselfish act does | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| Or, to put it differently, unselfishness is healthily selfish. I said before that performing an unselfish act | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| for a reward turns the act into a selfish one. However, if you do the right thing | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| see without a doubt that unselfishness is really selfish in a healthy sense, and that it is | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| in it. The other misconception, that happiness is selfish and is therefore forbidden, exists because of this | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| but you still feel deep inside that the selfish act would be to your advantage. Thus you | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| unselfish act is to your advantage, while the selfish one is not. The misconception may be deeply | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| as well as with the guilt of your selfish actions. This part of the work is essential | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| suppressed, but this discovery also brings out the selfish desires, which they now act out, going from | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| advance. It is not necessary to act out selfish impulses. You have more options than the two | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| You can recognize it without indulging in any selfish or damaging conduct. But you must recognize it | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| analysis is often accused of making people more selfish. If properly handled, this need not be the | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| reasons, you would really much rather do the selfish act. When asking yourself why, the answer will | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| recognize also that the act in question was selfish, compulsive, and unfree, especially because you wished approval | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| approval. Therefore your apparently unselfish act was really selfish. The selfishness has merely shifted. The process of | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| change, I still feel it is a little selfish. It is not so much for wanting approval | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| you still thinks that going after your original selfish desire would actually be more pleasant. For that | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| it is expected of us and therefore the selfish is regarded as pleasant. I would like to | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| that we live in a materialistic and rather selfish world, and what the world often seems to | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| often seems to demand is that we be selfish and self-seeking. When we are not, we are | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Sometimes, then, we might strive to become more selfish than we really feel like being. ANSWER: This | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you learn that it is wrong to be selfish, yet you would like to be so, thinking | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| for that, so that you frequently become compulsively selfish. Hence you are both selfish and unselfish compulsively | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| frequently become compulsively selfish. Hence you are both selfish and unselfish compulsively and in neither way act | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| rather a quadruple one. Each trend -- the selfish and the unselfish -- is counteracted by the | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| conflict is that you feel guilty for being selfish, and guilty and ashamed for being unselfish. QUESTION | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| are impure. The mere fact that the impure, selfish motives become conscious causes the wish-capacity to function | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| desires that have nothing to do with your selfish aims. The best prayer for another person can | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| is always constructive, provided one has no hidden selfish motives, no self-deceptions, and provided it is combined | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| offer -- as they are of the small, selfish and ungiving part of their nature. Let us | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| in you that was in darkness, that was selfish and unloving because of the wrong conclusions. Where | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| not it is harmful. For instance, if unrecognized, selfish, vain motives play a role, the effect can | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| the effect can be bad. In fact, outer selfish motives, fully recognized by the hypnotist, may be | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| no longer feel it an injustice that undeveloped, selfish people seem to have an easy life. You | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| but certainly not because you become a more selfish person. Many religious practices, however, will not make | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| longer feel it an injustice to see undeveloped, selfish people seem to have an easy life. You | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| must have produced himself. Now, observing some very selfish and undeveloped persons being loved and living in | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the first place, no matter how undeveloped and selfish a person may seem, or even actually be | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you have to give in to the most selfish part of another person's nature. Naturally, you rebel | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| and ignorant. Out of this self-centeredness and ignorance selfish motives arise, unconsciously or sometimes even half-consciously. You | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| exists, your motives must be mixed with unconscious selfish motives that produce the negative result. Survey your | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| may not yet be able to shed the selfish motives, the very admission that they exist, the | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| are outwardly so successful, while they are really selfish and very much lacking in maturity and love | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| viewpoint. Look inward to determine where you are selfish and proud, fearful and withdrawn. Search deep within | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| either you can have a happiness that is selfish, or, if you choose to refrain from this | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| spiritually blind person always thinks that being unduly selfish preserves the self. But in reality this is | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| You cannot say about anything that it is selfish or that it is not, except for crass | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| to it, then of course this is a selfish prayer, and it will do no good at | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| out of your soul will have any effect. Selfish prayer indicates a misunderstanding of life and is | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| motives become purified. Furthermore, there certainly is nothing selfish in it if you wish other creatures well | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| your resistance to developing yourself, there is nothing selfish in that, though you might believe that the | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| point is reached -- is in itself a selfish act. If you believe that, then it would | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| are -- and you are still imperfect. This selfish motive is not as pure as the one | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| prayer of this kind there is certainly nothing selfish. For God wants you happy. It is a | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| in their using all their power, all their selfish, ruthless drives, to defeat the enemy who always | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| way and the devil's. That which is intrinsically selfish and destructive often appears on a superficial level | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| which for the devil. Is the pleasure principle selfish and therefore destructive? Can you indulge in it | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| damaging to another person. It may make you selfish. Thus, you feel you have to decide between | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| love, and, on the other, to be always selfish so as to gain power. In addition one | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| and hidden rebellion. Therefore it is an utterly selfish emotion. The way to determine whether you feel | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| person does not have self-pity, he is not selfish. If a person is not selfish, he is | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| is not selfish. If a person is not selfish, he is not human, he is a god | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| and individuality. Although it is human to be selfish, it is also human to be unselfish. Although | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| Moreover, the pseudo-solutions and the idealized self are selfish and loveless in their very nature, and as | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| your inner isolation. You are too fearful and selfish, too self-centered in a negative sense, to break | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| way, even if this means giving up a selfish aim, then that person creates a state of | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| in one way and unreliable in another, both selfish and also unselfish? Yet the child in you | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| right way, but inwardly the motivations may be selfish, vain, unloving, and cowardly. One may conform to | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| that if you are happy, you must be selfish, while all unselfishness automatically goes against your interest | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| able to love. Anyone in that condition is selfish, egocentric, blind, and cannot understand others. Immaturity means | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| receive is a greedy force that is intrinsically selfish, then one can speak of lust. As I | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| easy to be deceived because the stronger this selfish need exists, the more the person may sacrifice | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| An unconscious need must always be one-sided and selfish. To assume that the sexual urge per se | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| they will see that irrational fear is always selfish and separating, and they will no longer find | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| yourself, does it not work? Are there always selfish, greedy, immature currents in the human soul? But | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| As long as you are inwardly greedy and selfish and do not even know it, outer greed | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| give in. Is it not better to be selfish -- if that's what you wish to be | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| it not much better and actually much less selfish than doing everything possible, but without loving? It | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| and wishes, whether they are right or wrong, selfish or unselfish, if you love. When you do | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| being with many unpurified emotions, with many childish, selfish, and shortsighted attitudes -- and learn to accept | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| not theoretically and intellectually, but actually -- your selfish withdrawal from loving, regardless of how well you | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| may already have discovered that the motives are selfish and not loving. Your motives may be desire | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| but not for loving. These, of course, are selfish motives. While you may admit to these motives | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| may be true, but the many times when selfish motives induce you to act selfishly, you do | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| is geared to right actions, but not to selfish ones. You still ignore the latter, just as | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| ignore the latter, just as you ignored the selfish motives behind your unselfish acts. Hidden selfish motives | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| the selfish motives behind your unselfish acts. Hidden selfish motives induce you to act them out, adversely | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| very strong wish that is absolutely unhampered by selfish motives, by ambiguous, confused, contradictory emotions, by uncertainty | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| certain amount of sacrifice, consideration, putting one's immediate selfish comfort aside -- at least occasionally, if the | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| personal fulfillment. The misconception that personal fulfillment is selfish and opposed to spiritual life often prevails among | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| push out of sight. Accept fully the primitive, selfish, destructive child in order to make it grow | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| grown up, which know better. But while this selfish, self-centered and limited infant dwells within, it must | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| develop some mental processes which immediately reduced their selfish primitive drives and made them more responsible for | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| was stronger and therefore better equipped to pursue selfish drives at the expense of others. This limitation | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| consideration of others and the curbing of its selfish instincts. The feelings may be lacking, but at | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| independent, while harboring problem areas in which the selfish ruling child reigns. The world, your earth sphere | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| the psyche, in this respect, to remain childishly selfish, so that a one-sided greed exists. The greed | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| friends, that you have not faced an underlying selfish greed, nor have you fully understood that the | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| and express it -- Since I am so selfish that I want everything for myself, I do | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| is true that many people are too childishly selfish not to abuse openness and outgoingness, especially if | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| determined directly by the following chain-reaction: facing the selfish, greedy child within you brings liberation, dignity, and | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| other, I spoke about the immediacy of the selfish child dwelling to some extent in all individuals | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| happy partnership and relationship, but you may feel selfish and greedy if your consciousness also expresses the | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| others, singling yourself out with unrealistic self-appraisal. This selfish form of distortion automatically brings about a distorted | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| for your own, in the fear of being selfish. Within the fence, the universe is so limited | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| concept, being a winner means to be ruthless, selfish, to trample and triumph over others and belittle | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| dependency. The loser fears the resentments and the selfish impulses because the striving for goodness according to | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| been conditioned to believe that personal happiness is selfish, will extract from you a price you are | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| ego, these desires are not only illusory but selfish and destructive. They have to be abandoned before | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| It permits the person to follow the most selfish impulses without open detection. Indifference may not be | 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL |
| what is given you. Even though your childish, selfish aim is to receive as much as possible | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| vibration without any conflict. You do not feel selfish for wishing to experience beauty, nor do you | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| not want to suffer. But if I am selfish, I will be rejected, despised, not loved, left | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| these two extremes: either to remain the greedy, selfish child, demanding to receive exclusively and not being | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| you let go and give up a self-centered, selfish, self-pitying, or self-destructive attitude, fear of self automatically | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| very limited. Happiness, pleasure, and ecstasy are frivolous, selfish aims which truly spiritual people must abandon for | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| such as, Pleasure is wrong, or It is selfish to want personal fulfillment. Fear of happiness is | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| actually theirs to begin with -- they are selfish and sinful. Yet only because they are really | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| and sinful. Yet only because they are really selfish and sinful in other respects -- and not | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| your power, you do not need to be selfish, cruel and greedy. At that point, there is | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| be imposed on you. Therefore you are both selfish and pleasure-denying. The more you feel compelled to | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| feel compelled to deny yourself pleasure, the more selfish you must become in order to blindly fill | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| order to blindly fill the void. The more selfish you become, the more you must punish yourself | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| because it may easily mislead childish, self-centered, falsely selfish, separating personalities, who may desire to proclaim their | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| In fact, only the person who can be selfish in the right, healthy way is capable of | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| act is so pleasurable that it is as selfish as it is unselfish. Unselfishness is selfishness, and | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| one on top. A person who cannot be selfish in the right and healthy way does not | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| superimposed levels of falseness, neurotic needs, and destructively selfish and exploitative demands that hinder the unfoldment of | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| that that which is blissful is wrong and selfish -- how strong and independent you must become | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| seems entirely too dangerous, baring the most primal, selfish, destructive feelings, which seem bottomless and final. This | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| uncovered and abandoned. Let us say you are selfish; or you have a streak of cruelty; or | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| focusing on yourself is not in the least selfish or self-centered. In fact, it increases your perception | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| may now be; for loving, regardless of how selfish you now may be; for strength and integrity | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| supposed to deprive you. Love is the most selfish of all attitudes, for it brings the greatest | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| mask or the hateful demon or the petty, selfish egotist. So, identification with the real self removes | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| to acknowledge your destructive, negative, cruel, hostile, and selfish feelings and attitudes. You are able to see | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| makes you arrogant and isolated, cruel and greedy, selfish and life-denying. It makes you untruthful on the | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| in denying the self and the other. Hating, selfish, cruel sex always produces guilt which is then | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| still see fulfillment in life as a totally selfish and self-serving enterprise in which everything is supposed | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| a pseudo-selflessness which may, in fact, be more selfish than overt selfishness. It may be part of | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| claim your total, wonderful egoless self. You remain selfish, concerned only in a negative way with little | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| the glory of it, the advantages, in a selfish, vain way. QUESTION: I can't imagine anything positive | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| persisting in its limited view that what is selfish is good for the self. It is destructive | 222 TRANSFORMATION OF THE LOWER SELF |
| and different way. If you find yourself being selfish and you believe you must cast out the | 222 TRANSFORMATION OF THE LOWER SELF |
| lower self is not merely devious, dishonest, and selfish; it is also ignorant. This ignorance makes it | 223 THE ERA OF THE NEW AGE AND NEW CONSCIOUSNESS |
| individual's, Earth's lower self is not only negative, selfish, greedy, and dishonest; it is also ignorant with | 223 THE ERA OF THE NEW AGE AND NEW CONSCIOUSNESS |
| self. So you had to learn to be selfish, my friends. As you know, there is a | 223 THE ERA OF THE NEW AGE AND NEW CONSCIOUSNESS |
| for each individual to live only for a selfish, immediate little life. This can no longer continue | 224 CREATIVE EMPTINESS |
| that you are happy only when you are selfish, and unhappy when you are unselfish. That false | 224 CREATIVE EMPTINESS |
| self. Those who have acted primarily on the selfish and destructive level must come to a change | 227 CHANGE FROM OUTER TO INNER LAWS IN THE NEW AGE |
| areas within where they still maintain the old, selfish, narrow vision. Those are the areas you call | 227 CHANGE FROM OUTER TO INNER LAWS IN THE NEW AGE |
| self functions, when you are free from self-serving, selfish attitudes, when you are true to your inborn | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| for wanting to grab a pleasure in a selfish way without lovingness. Only when that attitude of | 239 CHRISTMAS LECTURE 1975 |
| they bear the seed of hate, distrust, suspicion, selfish demands, maligning of truth. There will come a | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| see how this can be distorted by ruthless, selfish or irresponsible human beings who abuse the power | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| because he is too lazy, too fearful, too selfish, too self-indulgent, he commits as grave an injustice | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| having a stake in not knowing because of selfish reasons, or it may really be innocent ignorance | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| your life is dedicated to the pursuit of selfish ends, the greater your insecurity will be, accompanied | 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA |
| courage to risk something or to sacrifice a selfish aim. It also includes the faith that this | 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA |
| greater cause. Your own cause that may seem selfish will be furthered through it. Be who you | 258 PERSONAL CONTACT WITH JESUS CHRIST-POSITIVE AGGRESSION-REAL MEANING OF SALVATION |