| this process often causes distress because you may believe you have relapsed and this makes you more | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| to face it. Also, the experience made you believe that these needs cannot be fulfilled, and therefore | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| approval and love are not the same. To believe so, consciously or unconsciously, is a logical error | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| become less human and more like machines. I believe the very core of humanity is pity, and | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| here arises out of ignorance, in that you believe you are expected to give up any kind | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| destructive of yourself and others. Moreover, if you believe that the outcome of this work is first | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| because it is outside your control. If you believe that your rebellion alleviates the difficulty, you are | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| pseudo-individuality of the perpetual rebel. What makes you believe you are more of an individual and less | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| no reason to do so? What makes you believe that the person is a machine who faces | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| friends. Such erroneous thinking shuts a door. You believe an illusion, a superficial manifestation. When you understand | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| center of your individuality, when you no longer believe in pretense and illusion. The work you are | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| clearly. Do not be so frantic. Do not believe that your efforts, commendable and advisable as they | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| certainty of the love that is Creation. You believe in God's love, do you not? COMMENT: I | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| you will free yourself of so much. And believe me, your reunion with your mate does not | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| have the wrong concept of maturity because they believe if they were mature, they would always be | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| and inaction. Could you clarify that? ANSWER: I believe, my dear friend, that this is already answered | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| Not at all. I spoke about this, I believe, quite extensively in this lecture. When you reread | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| grow on you. Finally you will come to believe that actual fulfillment is impossible because you cannot | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| parents. I tell you, even if you now believe it will not help you in this or | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| little, the distortions will vanish. You seem to believe that the distortions have to disappear before you | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| humility to stand up for what you really believe, you are doing the will of God. If | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| me a hint? ANSWER: Yes, my dear. I believe the next step will give you the answer | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| on all concerned. It is very shortsighted to believe that masochism indicates a better character trend than | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| of course. You take it for granted. You believe that it has to be so. Nevertheless, you | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| It seems to tear you apart. Do not believe, my friends, that the pressure, the frustration did | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| back into evasion all over again. Do not believe that this temporary period in which you encounter | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| your surroundings. Whenever you are hurt, you erroneously believe yourself to be under attack. You think there | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| are more or less permanently defensive because you believe, erroneously, that any hurt or frustration, any criticism | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| uncomfortable for you to consider changing, or you believe that, if the truth came out, you would | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| full truth about their own side. You erroneously believe that if your weaknesses, or at least certain | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| is to ward off an accusation which you believe might bring rejection, frustration, and hurt. At that | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| completely erroneous concept of perfectionism, in which you believe that your value and acceptability are at stake | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| being. On the other hand, the more you believe, either consciously or unconsciously, that a human being | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| is to limit the human personality, because they believe that if there is less to a human | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| do not possess you blind yourself, because you believe that having what you want would give you | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| half as great as human beings want to believe. This happens especially when not committing the act | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| one-sided. It would be a crass misunderstanding to believe that mature men and women can love when | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| you want is wrong, so you try to believe that you do not want it. Outwardly you | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| experience failure and frustration. Often you may erroneously believe that such a failure comes about for moral | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| thought process, intellect, mind, and willpower, that you believe you can somehow become yourself by a direct | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| you cannot love by forcing yourself. You may believe you do, when in reality you do not | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| the mind, intellect, and the outer will. They believe that they can attain growth and experience the | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| a temporary state of precarious peace, they easily believe that they are on the right road. But | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| What then is the right self-discipline? ANSWER: I believe that this lecture, as well as all previous | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| in previous ones, for that matter, that I believe if you calmly reread what I said and | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| year, more than you can possible realize. We believe that, after this short interruption of activities, the | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| to add: it is man's complete illusion to believe that pain and suffering are terrible in themselves | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| of prayer in the different stages? ANSWER: I believe it is rather evident from the lecture itself | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| truly group work? ANSWER: Yes, my friend. I believe most of you can begin to sense and | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| sadness and depression is very distinct, and I believe you can all remember instances when you experienced | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| intermingle and overlap. Your sadness may make you believe that depression is absent. You may believe that | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| you believe that depression is absent. You may believe that your feelings of sadness and pain are | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| worst stage of your pain, you know and believe, deep inside, that your life will go on | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| understand this whenever you feel depressed. When you believe you are sad due to a good outer | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| Since a mineral is without consciousness you may believe that it does not relate. That is untrue | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| that he or she develops a tendency to believe to be always right. It takes quite a | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| -- or even their reason. They may always believe that only others are right, whether or not | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| in when it is disadvantageous or inconvenient. You believe that the only way to safeguard yourself against | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| off the love current from within. Conversely, you believe that if you were to allow yourself these | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| between cause and effect. Are we then to believe that we are living in a world of | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| ascetic life that is joy-negating. Why do you believe such defenses exist? They exist because the troubled | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| What is the borderline? ANSWER: I do not believe that it is possible, even desirable, to establish | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| and the cause of it -- where you believe that the destructive attitude is a necessary protection | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| is the human being's blindness and error to believe that if you love another and are good | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| can go further and find out why you believe that. Subsequently you will recognize how unreasonable such | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| become one. However, it is an error to believe that the next higher dimension is timelessness. There | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| be misunderstood. I do not want you to believe that when I mention these symptoms, I reprimand | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| you become; and, therefore, the more do you believe that you need others to strengthen you. Living | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| that there is no meaning to it. They believe that they are separate from life, but they | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| possible, and one of the most fundamental, to believe that you are one thing and the life | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| have succeeded. But do not for a moment believe that because of these past efforts you will | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| Do I deceive myself when I wish to believe that any activity other than self-recognition can bring | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| is futile because you fight to make yourself believe something that does not correspond to reality. It | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| not a virtue, my friends, as you may believe. It is quite the opposite, because it is | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| with it? ANSWER: It is an error to believe that allowing yourself to become aware of the | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| lectures can be regarded as meditations. People sometimes believe themselves to be in a growing process, while | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| experience the truth. It does not suffice to believe that this is so merely because it makes | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| that you hold down artificially because you erroneously believe them to be wrong. Accepting your self's inherent | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| result is not as vital as you may believe it to be, because in either alternative you | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| their own shame and pretense and who therefore believe they are not hiding anything. But then there | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| cease to matter. It is not necessary to believe in reincarnation. The important thing is the discovery | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| many people, for their difficulty in communicating. Humans believe that they react to one another, but usually | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| say, person A, never reaches A. Although you believe it does, it is actually directed to the | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| diluted by the unassimilated original experience. You may believe that only the experience of pleasure during childhood | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| difficulty understanding all this. Some of you may believe that I am being repetitious. But those of | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| the other, rather than causing conflict. If you believe that a need or feeling is necessarily wrong | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| shame about the existence of a feeling you believe you should not have -- while actually suffering | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| contact with the opposite sex. Examine what you believe are the injustices, which you unconsciously exaggerate in | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| a lack of trust; then fear makes you believe that the final reality is not to be | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| experience it without inhibition in fantasy. You then believe that outer reasons are responsible for your incapacity | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| sufficient, for you are all mistaken when you believe that having found the misconceptions, the erroneous conclusions | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| that the fulfillment will never come; if you believe your life is dismal without it. After having | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| exercises, cannot be a permanent one. Do not believe that what you now find suffices and needs | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| too tense, too harassed and impatient, if you believe that you are missing something else that is | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| attitudes that your No consists of. Many people believe that a positive attitude toward life means ignoring | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| pseudo-solutions don't work. When you are successful, you believe that it is because of them, rather than | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| get the false, idealized self across. Then you believe that you are so inadequate that you cannot | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| have to choose -- as you often unconsciously believe -- between one form of fulfillment or another | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| specifically preparing you for that. Even when you believe in this principle, you are often under the | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| and happier, more agreeable and safe. Yet people believe the opposite, acting as though the pathwork expected | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| difficult for humans to understand that when they believe themselves to be confronted with alternatives where one | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| to it. Admit clearly: As long as I believe that any decision must result in disadvantage or | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| increase the fear of unfulfillment because you then believe it is the outer event and not your | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| and explain such blind reactions, to make yourself believe that they are based on freedom of choice | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| fear your real darker side, but what you believe it is. Only too often, you consider unacceptable | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| them. They close their eyes in fear and believe they live behind fenced-in walls. Although there is | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| there are no fences in realty, if you believe and act as though you cannot move from | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| appears real, but only as long as you believe in it. The fences could be instantly removed | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| that this is so, and you may even believe what you hear: that you could open your | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| could have if you wanted to, while you believe the opposite. In spite of believing that you | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| or pretense on my part. Hence I will believe in the possibility of being loved. I sincerely | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| cause and effect. You are helpless because you believe yourself to be, not because you actually are | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| for deception. But when you see that you believe yourself to be helpless, that your desire is | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| question yourself as to whether or not you believe in the possibility of attaining the goal. If | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| universe, and the self. You suffer because you believe suffering is necessary and inevitable. If you believe | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| believe suffering is necessary and inevitable. If you believe that you must bleed, you will cut yourself | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| fulfillment of this or that wish. You also believe that your happiness or fulfillment takes away someone | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| unnecessary. It is tragic because what you deeply believe must appear to be true, since you have | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| Again, you are confronted with an either/or: you believe that you must make a choice between either | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| you can't if you have been conditioned to believe that personal happiness is selfish, will extract from | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| the obstructions than when you ignore them and believe yourself free from any countercurrents. Apart from this | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| You fear a wholehearted commitment, because you falsely believe that it demands giving up your intelligence, your | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| at such moments you do not want to believe that this highest source of intelligence and beauty | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| ANSWER: Yes. Only it might be misleading to believe that the child is necessarily the outer self | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| you. In a corner of your being you believe that the childish state where no adult responsibility | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| your parents continue to care for you, you believe that the childish state can be perpetuated. In | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| the guilt-producing attitudes. By doing so, you unconsciously believe that it is possible to maintain these attitudes | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| be your ultimate self. At this stage you believe that only the superimposed veneer that covers the | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| possibilities, extending far above and beyond what they believe to be natural law. Once they are understood | 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL |
| set on your fulfillment, like the limits you believe exist regarding control, are entirely arbitrary; they depend | 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL |
| not stamp you as lost, as you unconsciously believe, but rather the opposite. This is a new | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| the means you resort to when you make believe that you are honest with yourself all the | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| Soon you must pretend that you do not believe in the existence of that part in you | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| and destructiveness is so heavy only because you believe that it is final and static, like a | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| conceive of the possibility of experience. If you believe that happiness is impossible, how can you experience | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| from this power for you do not really believe that you have all you need to expand | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| and control another person to the extent you believe it necessary. Fear of being controlled -- to | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| life, you will deprive yourself. Conversely, you erroneously believe that only when you grab and are solely | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| that they will demand from you what you believe is dangerous to give. When a person is | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| precisely because you withhold yourself and because you believe in me versus the other. The consequences are | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| control? ANSWER: When the conflict exists because you believe in me versus the other, a strong control | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| not mere words or theories you can vaguely believe to be meant for a distant future. They | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| to yourself what it is that you actually believe, then interpreting what that means. This applies to | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| why you feel this, or what makes you believe that your feelings are justified and appropriate. You | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| yourself: Is this real, or do I just believe it? Could it be otherwise? Even when you | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| there is another level on which you do believe it is real. This level is not totally | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| and precisely formulate what it is that you believe -- how you interpret events which seem to | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |