| superimposing another set of feelings upon your real reactions. These may be other negative emotions; if they | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| a real insight into and understanding of your reactions and feelings that cause provocation will weaken the | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| force will be taken out of your emotional reactions. In fact, I would even say that this | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| much to help you further. The deep-rooted emotional reactions brought to light always show the child operating | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| more contagious in this world than emotions, thoughts, reactions, and attitudes. You can observe that in your | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| inner growth through understanding the unconscious motivations and reactions. QUESTION: How can you find out if someone | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| self with all its natural, beautiful, spontaneous right reactions was constantly hampered. Your real self is often | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| yourself the why of certain of your emotional reactions and if you cannot give yourself the answer | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| deal of self-search and analysis of your real reactions, going to the roots of their significance, until | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| moment, you will no longer have such strong reactions toward others. Is that clear? QUESTION: Yes. I | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| I mentioned the contagiousness of inner attitudes and reactions. All this is an explanation of that factor | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| and examine it profoundly as to their real reactions and hidden trends. If done sincerely, astonishing insights | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of retribution. Thoughts and emotions are actions and reactions too. They inevitably have an effect on others | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| translated into terms of your personal life and reactions, means your cringing from the consequences you are | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of the hand symbolize your everyday activities and reactions -- the outer and the inner -- the | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| others around you than the minor actions and reactions. The major activity establishes your place in life | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| with it you determine the minor actions and reactions. Burning: Do you have any idea what it | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you analyze and learn to understand your inner reactions and attitudes, you no longer need to think | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| one's life, while a part of one's emotional reactions still follow the old pattern, unbeknownst to the | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| your work on this path. Watch your emotional reactions, analyze them, try to understand them and work | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| piecemeal work of daily analysis of one's negative reactions, emotions, impressions and moods. There is no other | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| be quite logical -- you should investigate these reactions with will and vigor to find the hidden | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| effect and produces a similar set of chain reactions as the pretense. In fact, these two are | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Only utter self-honesty in all your doings and reactions -- be it in little, insignificant things, be | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| take more time. You will find the inner reactions to this subway problem similar to other aspects | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| your soul forces, all these inner actions and reactions were unconscious. At best, you were faintly aware | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| grow, and therefore become aware that the wrong reactions are due to wrong impressions, can you gradually | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| Keep in mind, as you examine your inner reactions, that you constantly fluctuate between the extremes of | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| need because you are driven by your unconscious reactions and motivations. Once you fully see and understand | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| this path, facing and examining your feelings and reactions, and understanding their significance by tracing them to | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| a sign that there are levels of unconscious reactions that should become conscious in you so as | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| or from the observation of their conscious daily reactions. May you all derive some benefit and strength | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| found, not as theory but as fact, how reactions or attitudes of your own were responsible for | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| being, is much more acute than the impressions, reactions, and experiences of the adult. This is good | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| beliefs, and comprehend the real meaning of your reactions. Any time you are disturbed, find out what | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| only when you tackle your seemingly insignificant daily reactions of desire and fear. Only then will you | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| makes you reject life. All of your everyday reactions and problems can be traced back to these | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| from yourself. When you try to hide your reactions to your own failure, you use special means | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| many things. First will come changes in your reactions to life, to incidents, to yourself and others | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| general concept. As usual, your most insignificant daily reactions, considered from this viewpoint, will yield the necessary | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| allow yourself to feel and observe your emotional reactions connected to your idealized self, then you will | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| omnipotence is always contained in it. These emotional reactions are so subtle and elusive, however, and so | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| you. You are so conditioned by the emotional reactions you have become accustomed to, you are so | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| eyes. You look past the seemingly unimportant emotional reactions to certain situations simply because they have become | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| hidden recognitions. But it is these actual emotional reactions that will furnish the clue, once your attention | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| follow this path have come across similar emotional reactions. Here is a typical example of how the | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| emotions, the weaker they will automatically become. Inner reactions are soul movements. The soul movement of this | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| be done only by truthfully examining your emotional reactions to situations. Whenever you feel disharmony of any | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| you are bound to find some of these reactions hidden deep within yourself. Both soul currents, being | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| for your defeat to save face. All these reactions, and many more, indicate the truth about what | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| defeat. Test how you fear exposure of certain reactions and incidents and how you avoid them. Examining | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| and how you avoid them. Examining these ingrained reactions which have truly become second nature is more | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| have become so accustomed to examining the deeper reactions that it hardly occurs to you to examine | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| hardly occurs to you to examine the surface reactions and behavior patterns. To experience defeat in a | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| healthy self-recognition and insight. Merely by observing your reactions, you will weaken the defeat's negative impact. Beware | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| one's anger, defeat being inadmissible. If these emotional reactions are allowed to come to the surface with | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| as well as bring out lots of negative reactions. Could you talk to us about this and | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| understand others and forgive, the more our emotional reactions will become toned down. Don't we thus tend | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| to the extent where we have less strong reactions. ANSWER: No, that is not so, except for | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| do not recognize that such tactics generate inner reactions that are bound to destroy their very aim | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| of these pseudo-solutions with all their various emotional reactions. You will unlearn the repression of forbidden feelings | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| certain painful points are reached, what are your reactions to the work, to yourself, to the people | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| increased training in awareness of what your emotional reactions signify. When the new working season starts, we | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| But each apparently insignificant insight about your own reactions and emotions will constitute a major step toward | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| if and when you completely understand your unconscious reactions and therefore control them, can you safely take | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| identify with what you fear most. Such emotional reactions can be found constantly in your self- search | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| while and coming across corresponding emotions, trends, and reactions within yourself, you will understand two things a | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| You must find these subtle and unobtrusive emotional reactions. They are neither obvious nor strong. Nor are | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| this respect. They do not connect certain emotional reactions with this God-image, with the false religious attitude | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| easy to know. When you investigate your emotional reactions and find that you want companionship out of | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| When you were hurt as a child, your reactions were anger, resentment, hate -- sometimes to a | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| it is the crisis that has caused these reactions in you. You wish to ignore the fact | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| interference. Once you are aware of such emotional reactions, you will again come a great step forward | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| peace, be in God. 90. MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS Greetings, my dearest friends. God bless | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| also to the other two phenomena -- disproportionate reactions, and needs -- that I shall also discuss | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| the second condition we shall discuss, namely, disproportionate reactions. One imperfection has the power to color your | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| know the answer, or simply have negative, undeveloped reactions. So the first thing to learn on this | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| but surely your emotions will mature and your reactions will change, and a healthy trust in yourself | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| healthy trust in yourself, in your natural, spontaneous reactions, will follow. You will become more lenient with | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| ideals, which require that you always have perfect reactions and that you instantly know all the answers | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| turn now to the second topic: your disproportionate reactions and exaggerations. I have previously mentioned how you | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| You will also discover how you experience your reactions and the reactions of others quite disproportionately to | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| discover how you experience your reactions and the reactions of others quite disproportionately to their real value | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| result of your work that such exaggerated emotional reactions exist. You have begun to sense, at least | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| and in isolated instances, how overly strong certain reactions are, relative to reality. This applies not only | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| creates the moralizing attitude and the disproportionate emotional reactions, although consciously and outwardly this need not be | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| examples, but you will have to discover these reactions in yourself as you learn to take your | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| yourself as you learn to take your emotional reactions out of hiding. In either case, you rise | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| well know, it is all nonsense. Whenever such reactions do appear, you stifle full evaluation of them | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| full evaluation of them. You ascribe your strong reactions to other factors that are not half as | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| light of truth. The connection between disproportionate emotional reactions and self-moralizing is quite evident. Both are based | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| and appear to do so, but your inner reactions belie the appearance. It is often said that | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| really feel, letting out your true emotions and reactions. Without that you cannot ever find what prohibits | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| muster the courage to admit to such childish reactions. The more strongly you hold on to perfectionistic | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| By the mere act of repeatedly observing your reactions, their strength will lessen. You will become capable | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| based on these alternatives. To observe these emotional reactions means to observe your immaturity. Only by doing | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| finally disappear. These three issues of moralizing, disproportionate reactions, and needs, remain to be found and experienced | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| come only if you account for your emotional reactions. Of course, both may possibly exist side by | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| observation and taking account of one's actions and reactions. Discipline is also needed to be aware whenever | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| -- RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS -- PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS Greetings, my dearest friends. God bless each one | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| process, while observing the subsequent outer actions and reactions. When it comes to the subtleties of the | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| inadequate response cannot fail to set negative chain reactions in motion. In this connection, we may speak | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| connection, we may speak of primary and secondary reactions. The healthier a psyche is, the more free | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| more one will be capable of having primary reactions. That is, you will react originally and spontaneously | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| dependent, waiting for clues, and your responses and reactions will be secondary ones, based on your guesses | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| ones, based on your guesses of what the reactions of others toward you are. Needless to say | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| be. Therefore you will more likely misjudge people's reactions to you. For instance, you may take it | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| making you capable of relinquishing your illusion. Secondary reactions derive from clinging to illusion and not daring | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| fulfill your need. Either your free and spontaneous reactions will produce favorable circumstances for you, so that | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| am describing here. The ability to have primary reactions is of utmost importance. The inability to have | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| At the same time, the absence of primary reactions strengthens your enslavement. You become more and more | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| that, the freedom and strength of developing primary reactions are a necessary prerequisite. This has to be | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| This process will free you to develop primary reactions. By observing the fact that you respond only | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| to react unconditionally, originally, and thus produce primary reactions. This will help you to face reality and | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| survive this. How do you combat the severe reactions when you really get to these twists? ANSWER | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| easier to narrow the gap between the wrong reactions that derive from the negative condition and its | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| a new habit to form in your emotional reactions, but also because you cannot form new habits | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| conscious. This predicament results in further negative chain reactions. The defense mechanisms become stronger and stronger in | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| the resulting behavior pattern; when you observe your reactions to others and how you affect them, notice | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| form or another. If you view your actions, reactions, and attitudes as emanating not from your true | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| to remain that way. Furthermore, observe your emotional reactions to others and how they affect you. Do | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| Try to apply it and observe yourself, your reactions, and emotions from that point of view. Try | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| aware of the significance of your own emotional reactions. COMMENT: Often in our discussions topics are touched | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| life. This is why you often repress your reactions to an imperfect situation -- and repression causes | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| difficult because you are so unaware of your reactions and feelings. You have so many subterfuges, so | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| your part. This process of ignoring your true reactions is a universal phenomenon that causes diminished awareness | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| the time you are blind to your own reactions can the blindness gradually vanish. And as you | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| QUESTION: In a previous lecture you mentioned secondary reactions and primary reactions. Am I correct in assuming | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| previous lecture you mentioned secondary reactions and primary reactions. Am I correct in assuming that secondary reactions | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| reactions. Am I correct in assuming that secondary reactions are the ones that come from manipulating emotions | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| that come from manipulating emotions, while the primary reactions are from the real self? ANSWER: Yes, you | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| are now on a much deeper level. Secondary reactions are a result of what we discussed tonight | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| right in seeing a connection. You see, secondary reactions, or the lack of primary ones, are due | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| it nevertheless influences your actions and governs your reactions to life, to others, and to yourself. It | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| outer senses. It means your inner actions and reactions, your thoughts and feelings, your motivations, your soul | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| if the unspoken expectations, the meaning of emotional reactions, are investigated and then interpreted into concise thought | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| Constantly observing your unrealistic and immature emotions and reactions weakens their impact and begins a process of | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| courageously becoming aware of all these impressions and reactions, will you gradually see a way out, and | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| and important, for otherwise, with only your normal reactions and perceptions at your disposal, you could not | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| human being. Even a child will have automatic reactions without having been taught. I wish to make | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| in mortal danger. If you translate your emotional reactions to such criticism, you will readily see that | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| see the truth. This attitude will change your reactions. Your emanations will have a different quality. Your | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| It is certainly natural to have immature, unproductive reactions, because everyone else has them too. But that | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| by superimposition, not by feeling guilty that childish reactions still exist within, but in the way that | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| are dulled and curbed, and who have no reactions? ANSWER: When a human being gets into that | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| Merely observe the wrong, childish, untrue, and distorted reactions and concepts. The more you observe them, the | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| erroneous, inadequate, destructive, disadvantageous, and unrealistic. Compare these reactions with your knowledge -- as yet only theoretical | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| theoretical -- of the realistic, truthful, and productive reactions, without trying to force yourself to feel the | 101 THE DEFENSE |