| wants you to be, not suffering, not in pain, but in true happiness. Be blessed, my dearest | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| touch with the departed one, understandable as this pain of separation is, then this motive or emotion | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| ANSWER: Yes, of course. Whenever something happens to pain or shock you, you cannot help being in | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| she knows that occasionally life brings unhappiness and pain. It is also bound to bring physical death | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| acceptance of life is the acceptance of inevitable pain and death. The healthy person will not unduly | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| an evil force and not so much about pain and death. If the infant in you matures | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| attitude would be somewhat like this: Death and pain are unwelcome. One day death will come to | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| of the moment. It knows only the immediate pain or pleasure, forgetting that in the relatively near | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| inner growth. You have to reexperience the acute pain you once suffered but you pushed out of | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| sight. Now you have to look at this pain conscious of the understanding you have gained. Only | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| No matter how true and understandable your present pain is, it is nevertheless the same childhood pain | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| pain is, it is nevertheless the same childhood pain. A little later you will come to see | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| how you contributed to bringing about the present pain because of your desire to correct the childhood | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| only have to feel the similarity of the pain. However, this requires considerable effort, for there are | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| are many overlaying emotions that cover the present pain as well as the past one. Before you | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| one. Before you have succeeded in crystallizing the pain you are experiencing, you cannot understand anything further | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| have caused you hurt or are causing you pain now. Experiencing these similarities emotionally will carry you | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| similarities, while at the same time experiencing the pain of now and the pain of then, you | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| time experiencing the pain of now and the pain of then, you will slowly come to understand | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| many people are not even aware of any pain, past or present. They busily push it out | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| of sight. Their problems do not appear as pain. For them, the very first step is to | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| first step is to become aware that this pain is present and that it hurts infinitely more | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| of it. Many people are afraid of this pain and like to believe that by ignoring it | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| feel, even in the temporary experience of acute pain, that in that moment it turns into a | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| that moment it turns into a healthy growing pain, free of bitterness, tension, anxiety, and frustration. There | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| frustration. There are also those who tolerate the pain, but in a negative way, always expecting it | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| You have to allow yourself to feel the pain of certain unfulfillments now and also the pain | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| pain of certain unfulfillments now and also the pain of the unfulfillment of your childhood, then compare | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| are the only one who experiences this particular pain or joy in quite this way. You may | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| that it brings not only joy but also pain. Intellectually, most everyone, if normal, understands that, but | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| rainy days, but emotionally they cringe from the pain. That is a sign of emotional immaturity, not | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| did not have this or that difficulty or pain, they would certainly do it, but this way | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| increased unhappiness. The symbolism of Jesus' blood is pain. Blood is associated with pain. You also have | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| Jesus' blood is pain. Blood is associated with pain. You also have to drink pain, my friends | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| associated with pain. You also have to drink pain, my friends. Again, accept it instead of escaping | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| own inner causes. And if you drink the pain instead of turning away from it, you will | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| you will be revived and come out of pain, as Jesus demonstrated by His death and spiritual | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| ANSWER: Exactly, that is what I have explained. Pain is always felt in the emotional body. QUESTION | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| double will remain. Therefore, it is sensitive to pain or other physical sensations. Under anesthesia, the etheric | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| goes out: therefore one is insensitive to physical pain in that state. In various states of trance | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| as the opposites cannot be brought into harmony, pain and suffering must result. But once this battle | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| unity behind the duality, so that pleasure and pain become one. But there are also imaginary, superimposed | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| life and death are one, that pleasure and pain are one. QUESTION: Is it not equally illusory | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| and concrete sense. Suffering and joy, pleasure and pain are dualities that, in the final analysis, are | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| says that one must rise above pleasure and pain. This is of course true in the ultimate | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| the duality. Instead, the transcendence of pleasure and pain happens only by accepting and fully facing the | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| misunderstand the meaning of rising above pleasure and pain do so because they wish to avoid rather | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| genuine acceptance, when in reality they simply reject pain and suffering, and therefore also pleasure and joy | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| you cringe from suffering. And since suffering and pain, or death and life, are connected and are | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| you suffer ceases to be an element of pain the instant you recognize the lesson it can | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| attitude of accepting, for the moment, the unwanted pain, and fully understanding that the self-produced misery is | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| faulty attitude toward life and death, pleasure and pain. How can you meet life's conditions unless you | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| the acute suffering of physical, mental and spiritual pain. Jesus met it squarely, without pretense, without self-deception | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| without shame in admitting his doubt and fear, pain and vulnerability. Only those who have this great | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| others, in order to remain unaware of the pain of such self-castigation. The inability of living up | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| and unrealizable. Each is a constant source of pain and disillusionment regarding the self, and therefore brings | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| contradictory trends, and this will be painful. The pain that was always in you but was hidden | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| only more ugly, but also more remote. The pain of the illusion becomes unbearable. All this produces | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| this work, do not shy away from the pain for it is healthy, and indispensable to eliminating | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| it is healthy, and indispensable to eliminating your pain once and for all. Without your going through | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| ostrich policy that never got rid of the pain deep within. By drawing out the pain you | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| the pain deep within. By drawing out the pain you will lose it. By keeping it locked | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| to suffer. The courage to go through this pain, which you may encounter on various levels, as | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| factors. Your inner will to go through your pain must always be cultivated anew. The inner will | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| from this earth cruelty and injustice, suffering and pain. Such general complaints are often motivated by the | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| bad, the happy and the unhappy, pleasure and pain. Contrary to just registering such impressions mentally, emotional | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| existence. Unhappy circumstances exist in every child's life; pain and disappointment are common. If such pains and | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| to feel if I wish to prevent the pain and the experience of unhappiness. In the past | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| for emotional experience, and therefore cannot feel immediate pain, it is also true that you dull your | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| experience life at its fullest. By withdrawing from pain, you withdraw from happiness and, most of all | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| the capacity to feel in order to avoid pain. From that moment onward, you withdrew from living | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| as a child; either they caused you actual pain, or produced an undesired result when you expressed | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| hurt, you did not wish to experience the pain of feeling unhappy. You also found it necessary | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| detached? That means remaining personally uninvolved, not risking pain, disappointment, personal involvement. Can you love in such | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| you will be able to change yourself without pain and discomfort. This cannot be done, of course | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| takes a great deal more time, effort and pain to achieve the latter. Unfortunately, this aspect is | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| willing to face either the longing and the pain of the unfulfillment, or the erroneous image-conclusion. The | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| difficult to face. If you go through the pain of making the confusion and the belief in | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| recognition will not only alleviate some of the pain, but will give you a clear directive as | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| also identification. Losing a dear one is a pain that has to be borne. In itself, it | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| be borne. In itself, it is a healthy pain that cannot weaken the soul, provided you go | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| through it. But the additional element in your pain is fear. And where fear is, identification occurs | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| you probe your emotions. The quality of the pain of loss does not contain the fear, bitterness | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| bitterness, self-pity, struggle, and hardness contained in the pain of identification, in pity. QUESTION: In the last | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| wish or goal itself. In other words, the pain of not having what you want is much | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| painful way. This accounts for the often disproportionate pain of a failure, a rejection, or lack of | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| and you accept it, you still suffer deep pain, even more so when you are aware of | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| death, there is no evil, there is no pain, you accept what we experience due to our | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| because you shy away from feeling a slight pain, or you think you should already be above | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| only pleasure derived from living is found in pain. I still do not mean physical masochism; it | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| it is in a very advanced state. Since pain through rejection seems the only certain thing that | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| with the world, and make pleasure out of pain in a very wrong, unhealthy, self-defeating, and life-defeating | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| resistance will have given way, since the unnecessary pain you encounter when you are not in the | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| the other. Both are one current of inflicting pain. The so-called sadistic person inflicts pain on others | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| of inflicting pain. The so-called sadistic person inflicts pain on others as a protection for the self | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| used certain terms to describe this infliction of pain. Spiritually it is absolutely true that there is | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| in peace. Be in God! 100. MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS Greetings, my dearest friends. God | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| area of their soul problems where they encounter pain. To understand the meaning of this pain, I | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| encounter pain. To understand the meaning of this pain, I should like to give you an overall | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| conditions you to develop destructive defenses. The original pain and frustration the child could not deal with | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| the unwelcome influences that have created the original pain. The pseudosolutions are a way of battling the | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| are a way of battling the world, the pain, and all that you wish to avoid. When | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| want to change and would rather welcome the pain than the self-alienation of feeling nothing, or very | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| repressed negative emotions, as well as the repressed pain, will at first come into awareness, and it | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| inner road. Originally you wished to avoid the pain by providing yourself with a strong person to | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| you. In reality you inflict upon yourself more pain because you can never find such a person | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| domineering and aggressive person. All pseudo-solutions bring untold pain to the self, as well as to others | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| thus the pseudo-solutions, intended to eliminate the original pain, only bring you more pain. All pseudo-solutions, in | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| eliminate the original pain, only bring you more pain. All pseudo-solutions, in addition to various other aspects | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| All of that is bound to bring you pain, hurt, frustration, unfulfillment. You chose a way out | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| frustration, unfulfillment. You chose a way out of pain and frustration, but this way has proven not | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| solid foundation before you go through the original pain and frustration you had run away from. You | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| development this threshold has to be crossed. The pain is a healthy growing pain, and the light | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| be crossed. The pain is a healthy growing pain, and the light is in sight when you | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| and unproductive living, as well as for the pain of crossing the threshold into emotional adulthood. Can | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| adulthood. Can you imagine being spared experiencing the pain against which you instituted the destructive patterns? You | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| smooth action -- are puzzled by the acute pain you experience. Often you do not quite understand | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| the best of life. Even after the acute pain has been properly assimilated and is no longer | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| Now, my friends, when you come across the pain, is it really merely the pain you once | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| across the pain, is it really merely the pain you once experienced as a child? Is it | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| entirely correct. It is true that the original pain and frustration have afflicted the resiliency of your | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| it and look for unsatisfactory solutions. But the pain you now experience is much more the present | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| you now experience is much more the present pain of unfulfillment, caused by your unproductive patterns. Consciously | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| not even be aware of the original childhood pain. It may take time and self-observation to distinguish | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| may take time and self-observation to distinguish the pain at all. After you do so, you will | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| so, you will see that the more acute pain is your despair with yourself and with life | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| institute the unproductive ways responsible for your present pain. If you do not shy away from the | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| If you do not shy away from the pain but go through it, becoming aware of its | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| realize that your present unfulfilled needs cause the pain. Your frustration will be with your inability, at | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| have held in check. When you experience the pain, before crossing the threshold into emotional maturity and | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| fully aware of it. As you encounter the pain, you actually experience the tremendous pressure of your | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| aware of the central core, the pressure and pain may feel more acute, but such must be | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| your emphasis from evasion to reality. The real pain has to be experienced in all its shades | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| subterfuge to hide from the basic core of pain. They come into existence as a result of | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| more, and then you become aware of the pain. The fear is an inadvertent result of the | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| have more unpleasant results than feeling the original pain. Unpleasant as the original pain may be, once | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| feeling the original pain. Unpleasant as the original pain may be, once one accepts its truth, it | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| is faced, met, and come to terms with, pain, the underlying cause of it, has to be | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| dealt with similarly. It is not only the pain of unfulfillment that you cringe away from, however | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| that says that running away from the original pain of unfulfillment increases the unfulfillment, and therefore the | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| of unfulfillment increases the unfulfillment, and therefore the pain, operates here, too. QUESTION: In the process of | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| are doing so. All the rejection, isolation, and pain that you inadvertently inflict onto others is bound | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| you. Therefore, you substitute anger for the original pain. Anger seems less shameful, setting you above the | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| to the self. If the primary emotion -- pain or hurt -- is no longer conscious, or | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| penetrate deeper and find the underlying hurt or pain. I might also add that many other destructive | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| something different. That is the only way confusion, pain, and suffering can be removed. That is the | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |