| Obedient....................11 | |
| The frequent tendency to conform, to be the obedient child, is part of this conflict. The entire | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| false guilt of not being as good and obedient as the submissive attitude demands; the false guilt | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| will be rewarded with happiness for being an obedient little child. Since God does not reward such | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| up the expectation of being rewarded for being obedient to rules. Simultaneously, it frees him from fear | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| you fear. In order to be a good, obedient child, you negate this possibility. You are afraid | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| the ego self is no more than an obedient agent, whether you know it or not. The | 158 THE EGO'S COOPERATION WITH OR OBSTRUCTION OF THE REAL SELF |
| let go in a sense of fearful, resigned, obedient, sacrificial deprivation, you remain in duality. The untightening | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| You may try to be a good little obedient follower of a powerful authority figure in order | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| inner understanding, not merely to perform an outer obedient act. The latter would not be very meaningful | 205 ORDER AS A UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE |
| me when I have proven to be so obedient to you. I venture to say that you | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| is right, or necessary. People will not be obedient out of guilt and fear of disapproval, but | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| Obey........................35 | |
| around it. It is uncomfortable to realize and obey the laws of justice, so by leaving the | 29 THE FORCES OF ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY -- FINDING GOD'S WILL |
| necessary for spiritual growth. To ask and to obey is better than nothing. But to ask how | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| will, like a child who is forced to obey. The mature attitude is the free one. This | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| -- something you are forced, or compelled to obey, an authority that is stronger than you. I | 48 THE LIFE FORCE IN THE UNIVERSE |
| desire most, but you have no courage to obey it because your compulsive conscience speaks too loudly | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| level, this happens when a child has to obey and do certain things it does not want | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| side in you, the side you intend to obey. What is the result of this conflict? Due | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| own may appear to give in temporarily and obey your command. But such a response can only | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| other person to feel obligated to love and obey you. Or else, if you fear defeat, you | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| of a taskmaster whom it is impossible to obey. Then you will know what peace and security | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| dependent on it, that when others do not obey this demand, the person is outraged. The fury | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| convinced that there is no conflict. If they obey and do everything expected of them, they will | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| further purpose in connection with the God-image. To obey the hated rules against one's will would be | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| added yoke of feeling that you have to obey, whether you want to or not. The idealized | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| plays an important role. True religion does not obey. It is free. True religion is a willing | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| sort always has the wrong motive: If I obey, you will protect me. You will make decisions | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| good or bad to me. But if I obey and appease, chances are that he will be | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| the defense is destructive in general, and you obey this general understanding. But you have not yet | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| comes out of your real self than to obey rules and principles when you are not at | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| constructive results. The motives may be wanting to obey and appease others and come from your idealized | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| and even constructive for human beings to merely obey a commandment in their actions. Since this is | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| acts at will; who rewards you if you obey His laws; who guides you without your active | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| free decision and self-responsibility by forcing man to obey certain prescribed rules. Between these two, apparently mutually | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| you wish to be good, you wish to obey the law, to be blameless. Restitution becomes as | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| with me, instead of with yourself. You merely obey another authority. You have merely shifted your identification | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| of society coerce the individual to follow and obey moral standards. Because of this pressure from the | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| you are no more free than if you obey it. If you obey the superimposed conscience, and | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| free than if you obey it. If you obey the superimposed conscience, and the result of such | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| blame on life and the world. If you obey your real conscience, you will take all the | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| real self's standards are often more difficult to obey because they might demand that you oppose public | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| erroneously, of course -- that only when you obey and are governed by the little self are | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| practices. People have too ingrained a tendency to obey an authority. We have discussed this amply in | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| respect for the movements that cannot always immediately obey the commands of the mind. It is necessary | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| are bound to me and will have to obey my wishes. You will be too guilty to | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| ants, for example. Animals living free in nature obey the structure of the highest creation in poise | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| Obeyed......................5 | |
| communication for which certain laws have to be obeyed and certain conditions prepared? This was an integral | 23 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| work that way, your commands are often not obeyed. When the rules prove ineffective, your insecurity is | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| injustice. You feel cheated. After all, you have obeyed, often to the letter. But, obedience of this | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| always demand, if you will, that they be obeyed because they have been created in perfection. Yet | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| meant nothing more than acquiring a slave who obeyed the master of the house; who saw to | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| Obeying.....................5 | |
| so, or because some spiritual law prohibits forcing. Obeying an authority or a law is not a | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| self, one must cling to the superimposed conscience, obeying, conforming, appeasing, and blindly following it. Never developing | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| violently resented their rulers, but could not help obeying, while simultaneously even needing the stronger ones. When | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| a certain rigidity and superficiality to human existence. Obeying rules blindly is a temptation to avoid thinking | 227 CHANGE FROM OUTER TO INNER LAWS IN THE NEW AGE |
| guidance you require. This means labor, courage, search. Obeying the outer rule prevents this. So what I | 227 CHANGE FROM OUTER TO INNER LAWS IN THE NEW AGE |
| Obeys.......................4 | |
| you will never really respect the person who obeys this command. You will respect only the person | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| grab, the other because the child conforms and obeys, rather than acting out of conviction. Whenever you | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| human struggle. What consciousness determines, the life stuff obeys like clay in the hands of a sculptor | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| because, distorted, they make no sense, or hypocritically obeys them on a surface level that fails to | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |
| Object......................64 | |
| What you have in mind is a material object which you can give to only one person | 5 HAPPINESS FOR YOURSELF OR HAPPINESS AS A LINK IN THE CHAIN OF LIFE |
| aura from a piece of art or some object? ANSWER: Yes, that is right. QUESTION: Speaking of | 15 INFLUENCE BETWEEN THE SPIRITUAL WORLD AND THE MATERIAL WORLD |
| contained therein -- landscapes, mountains, seas, houses, any object -- exists concretely and does not alter its | 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW |
| are as substantial and visible as any material object is to you at present and even more | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| systematic way of praying. By focusing on an object you will not learn concentration any better than | 36 PRAYER |
| on what is really essential. Concentration on an object is not essential, but may be better than | 36 PRAYER |
| not see the very trends you most strenuously object to in someone else. That is dangerous too | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| may be justified. The isolated fact that you object to may be valid, but not your evaluation | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| brothers or sisters falls into it. You will object to it, yet you will ignore that you | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| maturity. The immature person will blindly choose the object that may take advantage of the giving up | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| you can apply to everyday life. An inanimate object is petrified life force. A beautiful idea, a | 48 THE LIFE FORCE IN THE UNIVERSE |
| eternal. Death is but an illusion. An inanimate object you call dead is only so temporarily. All | 48 THE LIFE FORCE IN THE UNIVERSE |
| gratifies one's will, but needs and desires an object. My friends, before I go on with this | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| when you wanted a subject and not an object. Find out by what emotions, desires, and reactions | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| nature of these fields varies also between one object and the other. This depends on the material | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| in everything, from what is apparently a dead object to what is obviously a live organism. But | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| by; there may not be a specific love object in your life. But the desire to be | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| to understand that one continually chooses a love object who has exactly the same negative trends that | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| it will make you as helpless as the object of your attack. Thus you are caught in | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| finally give way and you will no longer object to going through a period of growth now | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| the affection of certain people, or a desired object which became unattainable when you expressed what you | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| from giving love, then it seems that the object of the love is not so important. How | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| a personal involvement with the self as the object. Thereby love becomes an understanding and a non-personal | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| and yet constantly find themselves hindered because the object of their affection is unwilling to receive the | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| similar conditions within yourself that you so strenuously object to outwardly. They may exist in a much | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| word table, it is a symbol for the object you use and know. The same applies to | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| alone, can recognize is as distinct as any object in your outer environment you wish to grasp | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| it is final and static, like a hard object made of an unchangeable substance. This fear is | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| valid objections, but only in connection with the object of affection. Never do they justify the denial | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| feelings themselves. If the choice of the love object is inadequate, it is precisely a result of | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| experience, no situation, no concept, no feeling, no object that does not already exist. Everything in the | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| what they want most. The further away the object of the longing, the easier it is to | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| about this, my friends. Even an apparently dead object is not dead; it contains life, movement, and | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| This substance then is molded into form, event, object, state of mind, or whatever. The imprints in | 175 CONSCIOUSNESS: FASCINATION WITH CREATION |
| of consciousness. The principle also applies to an object: when it rots or disintegrates, the energy within | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| applies even to the creation of the simplest object. To illustrate this principle, let us take this | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| take this example. First the idea of the object must be formed in the mind. Without the | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| mechanical and ego-determined work together in harmony, the object cannot be created. The first aspect, creative thinking | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| without exception, to everything. Whether you create an object, compose a symphony, paint a picture, write a | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| Whether it is you who create a tiny object, or the cosmic intelligence which creates new galaxies | 194 MEDITATION: LAWS AND VARIOUS APPROACHES-SUMMARY (MEDITATION AS POSITIVE LIFE CREATION) |
| dealing with them as they come up. The object in every case is to free one's life | 205 ORDER AS A UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE |
| a planetary system, the creation of a simple object, or the unifying of two loving mates. This | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| own creative powers, rather than feeling a helpless object in a fixed world. Peace and knowledge of | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| is. I once gave this analogy: if an object is thrown into water, waves form in circles | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| a piece of jewelry, or whatever the inanimate object may be. That need -- that desire to | 217 THE PHENOMENON OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| with it in certain definite ways. Thus an object is created. So every object you use, enjoy | 217 THE PHENOMENON OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| ways. Thus an object is created. So every object you use, enjoy, or need fulfills its task | 217 THE PHENOMENON OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| expression of the most inanimate objects. Such an object also contains an energy field, which is its | 217 THE PHENOMENON OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| one manner or another, so the purely utilitarian object is really not so utilitarian after all. You | 217 THE PHENOMENON OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| I'm really afraid that my father's going to object to my name being changed to Solomon. I'm | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| I said to you, there is no inanimate object that is not alive in some way, that | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| and stronger and to possess her as an object. The woman also plays a role here. You | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| contracting and static principles, be it a small object of the simplest form, or the creation of | 235 THE ANATOMY OF CONTRACTION |
| be an entity, a being, a creation, an object, an experience. Divine reality in its great joyous | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| alive has withdrawn from the shell. An inanimate object is motionless. Since there is nothing in the | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| capacity to give love or feelings or an object of material nature -- you always think you | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| your perception of it. It is not the object of your perception that changes. It is your | 245 CAUSE AND EFFECT ON VARIOUS LEVELS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| then find the courage to risk losing the object of your need. By setting God above all | 245 CAUSE AND EFFECT ON VARIOUS LEVELS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| the existence of these forms. There is no object on earth that does not have its origin | 246 TRADITION: ITS DIVINE AND DISTORTED ASPECTS |
| exchange for these services, which included being an object for man's mostly quite impersonal lust, the woman | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| Her only responsibility was to be an adequate object for her master. Of course you understand, my | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| performed only when the woman becomes a low object in the man's mind. Pornographic sex can take | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| the man had to make the woman an object. Instead of admitting the fear of self-responsibility on | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| on all levels, the woman made herself an object and then blamed the man for this mutual | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |