| even for both parties. If you had no negative or problematic tendencies, you could easily accept another | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| the courageous and appropriate step to live through negative, immature emotions in order to afford them the | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| repress existing emotions because the expression of the negative produced an undesirable result. You might say that | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| rightly say that if you live out your negative emotions, the world will punish you in one | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| lack discipline or an aim, and expose your negative emotions, that is indeed destructive. Try to distinguish | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| dreamed existed. After the first painful release of negative emotions, you will find a certain relief in | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| could not express themselves as long as the negative emotions were held in check. You will also | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| do not have the courage to allow the negative in you to reach your surface awareness, how | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| your being? If you cannot deal with the negative because it is out of your awareness, this | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| is out of your awareness, this very same negative element will stand in the way of the | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| so necessary will first experience a host of negative feelings. But after these are dealt with and | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| be detected, it will alleviate any danger of negative emotions taking on a power that the personality | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| instead of your mistaken self-image, the strength of negative emotions will abate. Yes, you will, of course | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| will abate. Yes, you will, of course, experience negative emotions, but you will never fear that they | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| put it this way: the strong impact of negative emotions, to the point where you fear that | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| that you are not your idealized self. The negative emotions in themselves would be much less disturbing | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| at ease. You will become capable of experiencing negative emotions in a way that promotes growth. You | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| and you will be in control of evolving negative emotions without repressing them, but expressing them constructively | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| you will no longer feel threatened by the negative emotions. You will be able to handle them | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| the harm comes from the existence of the negative emotions as such. It does not. It comes | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| way of this path, little by little the negative emotions will disappear. But while they are still | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| and the person grows out of the powerful negative emotions. Then there will be no sublimation necessary | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| the wrong approach when it comes to controlling negative emotions. With a good intent to channel and | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| emotions, you will find not only definite individual negative emotions, such as hostility, resentment, aggressiveness, and envy | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| questions, you will understand how they breed the negative emotions about which, consciously or unconsciously, you feel | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| to expect yourself to be quite free of negative impulses and emotions and to reject yourself because | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| attitude about yourself whenever a crisis brings the negative out. It is one thing to know that | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| conscious judgement, but an emotional reaction. This extreme, negative view arising from certain negative instincts or feelings | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| reaction. This extreme, negative view arising from certain negative instincts or feelings causes an inordinate fear. The | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| do not accept and like yourself because unsuspected negative trends exist in you. Instead of trying to | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| do not know the answer, or simply have negative, undeveloped reactions. So the first thing to learn | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| determine their significance, you will not only find negative feelings you had been unaware of, like the | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| relative to reality. This applies not only to negative but also to positive or favorable incidents. This | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| self-evident that in thus entering a benign circle, negative emotions such as self-pity, helplessness, hostility, guilt, and | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| means that you know without anger that these negative aspects still exist in you, that you are | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| anger at oneself, impatience. There will be no negative feeling. There will be an insight into one's | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of the idealized self-image speaks, many of these negative feelings will be present. You will feel guilty | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| be present. You will feel guilty about existing negative trends while still wanting to have it your | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| because in your self-accounting you have discovered that negative motivations, moralizing, and the idealized self happen to | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| that which is right, while working on the negative aspect until you can free yourself from it | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| constructive action merely because you have discovered a negative motivation or a destructive impulse inverted into a | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| further. In other words, because of repression of negative emotions, as well as of positive goals, a | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| like to hear that you not only have negative motives of which you seem so proud, but | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| way. Such inadequate response cannot fail to set negative chain reactions in motion. In this connection, we | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| of your own repressed needs with the consequent negative condition. If you are unable to stand frustration | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| there is such a strong reaction, such a negative experience, something in you still fights against giving | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| is the only indication of true progress. The negative manifestations do not just vanish after having been | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| between the wrong reactions that derive from the negative condition and its subsequent manifestations, but will lead | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| in connection with them, repressed emotions, positive and negative. In the third phase we investigate the defense | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| making it conscious. This predicament results in further negative chain reactions. The defense mechanisms become stronger and | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| it much easier for you to find the negative ones. From this perspective it should also be | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| of the two alternatives a positive and a negative side, and therefore you cannot reconcile the two | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| the split in yourself into both positive and negative trends, confusion sets in in the same pattern | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| of a trend, while the other has its negative and destructive side in mind. Take, for instance | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| you actually have another term to designate the negative aspect of compassion, and that is pity. You | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| having a positive attitude, thus covering up a negative one. Why is pity destructive? Apart from the | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| slowly begin to cause different effects. The old negative effects do not dissolve immediately after you find | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| fully realized, how you have contributed to this negative situation, you have arrived at a feeling of | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| your problem back to yourself -- even this negative finding will give you the experience of reality | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| your awareness, you will see that the first negative flow has to dissipate itself through understanding your | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| functioning? And how can they function if the negative emotions are repressed and you barricade behind a | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| too fearful and selfish, too self-centered in a negative sense, to break down the barriers between yourself | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| direct people and circumstances as you choose. This negative view of fulfillment is, of course, utterly false | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| benign effect and at other times a momentarily negative one. But even that is geared to establishing | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| masochism, because the images, whose patterns embody a negative tenet that produces a painful result, are inherently | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| sadism and masochism, calling one positive, the other negative. How do you regard this? ANSWER: This is | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| force that exists in him due to unresolved negative tensions. He cannot simply dispense with it at | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| be pleasant. It cannot be. All the repressed negative emotions, as well as the repressed pain, will | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| what I have often said: First the outer negative events will continue to come your way, as | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| for a moment of the effect of the negative, distorted soul parts of a human being in | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| both are equally damaging and have the same negative results. Both alternatives make reaching out toward the | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| being has, in both a positive and a negative aspect, every emotion, trend, or characteristic you can | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| its positive facet at one time and its negative at other times are among the difficult intricacies | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| self-alienation. It is displacement. Thus, the lie causes negative effects, while owning up to your feelings does | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| even if the outward feeling appears to be negative, while an apparently positive feeling may weaken you | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| will and love are used and therefore a negative result is produced. Yet you also know that | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| the weapon of turning a positive into a negative feeling. You feel resentment, rejection, pride, and you | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| willpower. Let us now see another of the negative manifestations and some more reasons why the will | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| you are unaware of it must produce a negative result. Why? Not because of the wish itself | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| self. The reason for doing so is purely negative. It is the lack of courage to be | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| partly in another, you will experience a very negative result. You will be stymied in your efforts | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| aiming at liberation does not have to fear negative circumstances. There is no need to use discipline | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| this world, you need the mind. Dissolve its negative use in areas of your being where the | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| Emotions of which you are aware, even if negative, cannot build anything destructive. But unconscious negative emotions | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| if negative, cannot build anything destructive. But unconscious negative emotions are bound to build destructive results. Positive | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| only want to add this: Channeled emotions are negative emotions manipulated. Only by letting them free will | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| as long as you do not understand their negative distortions? By channeling your emotions, and thus yourself | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| time yet. Such expectations will have a very negative effect. QUESTION: But what if you are engaged | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| if you do not first experience, in a negative way, that which is, now. Nor can you | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| importance. How else can you safely allow your negative emotions to come to the fore? To allow | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| normal and healthy and do not contain any negative, destructive elements. You need more insight and comprehension | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| environment, even if it is in the most negative way, to food, to certain bodily functions, perhaps | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| They may be wrong at times. They have negative emotions too. But, on the whole, they love | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| variety may be a step toward health. A negative manifestation is often an indication that a positive | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| do love does not simply dissolve all the negative currents and distortions, conflicts and fears, unconscious defensive | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| That does not merely mean looking at the negative aspects and currents. Involvement means the staking of | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| emotional growth, manipulating your feelings in a most negative and destructive way, with grave repercussions in your | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| relationships. You are either constantly involved in a negative way, or you withdraw and live in bitter | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| feelings are there. You will find all the negative emotions we have discussed. These have to be | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| to you. They are only buried under the negative emotions which do not allow the positive emotions | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| I just calmly look at myself with the negative tendencies that exist side by side with the | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| your disproportionate hurt at any suggestion of certain negative trends, and your disproportionate fear and rebellion against | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| illusion, under which fear, uncertainty and many other negative attitudes slumber. All this you know, at least | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| to these potentials -- positive, as well as negative -- that the entity grows. The malleable, soft | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| the soul is potentially healthy and strong, even negative impressions will not make a deep dent. The | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| The healthy soul-substance will not even have a negative reaction if the story is misinterpreted. False myths | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| is misinterpreted. False myths will not have a negative effect either. For not all myth is truthful | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| example: Let us suppose you sense a detrimental, negative quality in someone else, or in yourself. If | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| same perception; however, you do not sense the negative quality because, instead of merely observing what is | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| is pursued regardless of the cost of facing negative aspects, of shattering one's cherished ideas about oneself | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| it happen that you find yourself in a negative mood without learning the deep lesson behind it | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| opportunity for going to the root of the negative incident or mood, you will experience deep understanding | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| inner conflict and confusion, you cannot avoid the negative emotions that are unleashed when time goes by | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| until you discover the origin of all the negative emotions. As you recall these times of liberation | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| your relationship to time. If you analyze each negative emotion, you will find that it conflicts with | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| in all its depth a distortion or a negative attitude in themselves. If all the benefit contained | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| reality. To experience oneself as mortal is not negative or morbid, as is commonly believed. A realistic | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| surface. It is also necessary to look for negative identities. In other words, a parent whom one | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| preoccupation, though very often unconscious, may be a negative identification. The tie to the undesirable parent may | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| positive identification is often as undesirable as a negative one because both prevent the evolution of the | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| human interdependence, which never causes anxiety or other negative emotions, you might very well visualize a need | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| out. This will be easier than finding the negative conditions has been. But first, you have to | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| ceasing the futile struggle to keep your hidden negative attitudes from surfacing, in the false belief that | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| struggle for an apparently healthy aim but register negative emotions, you will know that an unhealthy struggle | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| a lack of integrity -- for otherwise these negative, depleting emotions could not be there. When you | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| remove your blocks you will start to experience negative emotions unlike any you have felt before. The | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| loving, unselfish feelings must follow eventually, and the negative feelings will no longer be detrimental to you | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| detrimental to you. Not wanting to see the negative does not eliminate its existence. When you struggle | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| one of many emotions. There are clusters of negative emotions combined in certain attitudes that you resist | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| you resist recognizing. Stop the resistance. Let the negative emotions float freely to the surface, and then | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| this division exists goes unrecognized. Moreover, the underlying negative emotions are still kept in hiding; they simply | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| need not be feared. You often artificially encourage negative feelings, though the real you is free of | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| that, if released, is the power of love. Negative emotions are a result of closing the door | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| and realize that all three categories of inner negative trends need acceptance and awareness, each for its | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| all the responsibility upon yourself and even a negative outcome will not throw you into despair. You | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| at the moment, but there may be a negative effect. It is not the act or its | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| compulsive need for overindulgence to compensate for the negative currents in the parents that it unconsciously feels | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| offers the conditions that are compatible with their negative involvement. Only after having overcome negative involvements will | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| with their negative involvement. Only after having overcome negative involvements will the cycle of births into this | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| conditions, compatible with the new state. What does negative involvement mean? It means, primarily, confused notions of | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| and experiencing true reality, the split mends and negative involvement ceases. This idea has been expressed in | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| involved with life and with others. The primary negative involvement occurs within yourself, in your misunderstanding of | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| parents manifests as an asset. But when the negative involvement is still strong, the parents represent the | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| means that the fundamental attitude that underlies your negative involvement fluctuates between two ways of reacting. Such | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| life governs you as a consequence of the negative involvement you reexperience with your parents. When I | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| be clearly observed. How much more, then, must negative experience, resulting from previously unresolved conflicts, impress the | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| But it cannot be too strongly emphasized that negative experiences and involvements occur only to the degree | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| degree of the intensity of that experience. Any negative involvement with another person will express this conflict | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| there were no conflict, there would be no negative involvement. Since the involvement expresses conflict, it must | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| is given in the most subtle way. The negative involvement ceases to provoke a response. This must | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| experience universal bliss combines with personal fears and negative experiences so that the personality may remain crippled | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| layer below hate and resentment. Hostility and other negative emotions may have been difficult to face because | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| the pleasure drive was fixed in connection with negative, unpleasurable experience by guilt and fear, by misconception | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |