| Submissive..................54 | |
| and until you have made your lower self submissive -- and this can be done if you | 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW |
| self- centered, proud, arrogant, superior -- or unhealthily submissive, which is bound to make you resentful. All | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| fluctuate between the two extremes. Either you are submissive, which you feel is unhealthy for all concerned | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| you, and who become thereby hardly better than submissive slaves. There are also times and aspects of | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| aspects of yourself in which you become a submissive slave. This is not to be taken literally | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| you want. Since certain outer aspects of such submissive behavior seem superficially to resemble true love, it | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| One such attitude is submissiveness. When you are submissive you cling, and hope for the love of | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| again may be difficult to trace. While a submissive person is obviously dependent, the one with a | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| that they are just as dependent as the submissive type, only they choose different means to pursue | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| themselves that is no more real than the submissive kind of love. Another way of coping with | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| advantage of you. But most human beings are submissive in the wrong place and yield where they | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| a protection against the vulnerability of the underlying submissive aspect. I have also talked about how you | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| is based on bargaining and the interplay of submissive and domineering attitudes. Either attitude can be dominant | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| the other solutions. The person with the predominantly submissive attitude will have a somewhat harder time discovering | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| love, selflessness, or any other holy attitude. The submissive type will have to look with very discerning | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| out of the distortion of power. Simultaneously, the submissive type may also admire and envy the despised | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| them when incorporated in the idealized self-image. The submissive type will have a harder time finding the | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| only in their distorted forms as in the submissive type, but also in their real and healthy | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| aggressive type feels as deeply ashamed as the submissive type is ashamed of the resentment and self-assertive | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| more real than the helpless softness of the submissive person, the power type is just as dishonest | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| self-image and brings on deep shame. Conversely, the submissive type is proud of loving everybody and of | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| good. This outlook is needed to maintain the submissive attitude. In reality, this type of person does | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| must never fail in anything. Contrary to the submissive types who glorify failure, because it proves their | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| the prevailing attitude may be submissiveness. Likewise, the submissive type may in certain cases resort to the | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| another thinks, as is the case with the submissive type. But being too proud to admit that | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| will. But it may also exist in the submissive type who needs love as a solution for | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| that these attributes cannot be combined. Therefore, when submissive, such people feel self-hate, because they think they | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| underlying emotions. Let me give you an example. Submissive people, always ready to appease, to be overly | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| work between themselves and others, will they change. Submissive people also feel guilty about these resentments because | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| their idealized self-image. When you find such a submissive attitude in yourself, look into what exists beneath | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| -- for love, protection, and nurturing -- the submissive solution has been chosen in the belief that | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| and protection; craving pleasure and happiness; feeling vulnerable, submissive, insecure, and dependent. If the predominant tendency is | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| clear? QUESTION: I understand that people who are submissive inwardly, for example, may have an underlying power | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| of these tendencies alternate? When a person is submissive on one occasion, domineering on another, and withdrawn | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| predominant power drive. He has associated with many submissive people who respond favorably to him. This solution | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| A third possibility is that, even the most submissive person will reach a point where he or | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| go so far and no further, since the submissive person also has aggressive power aspects. So then | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| usually domineers over others will then become quite submissive. This is how people will try to gratify | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| tonight's lecture. I specifically said, for instance, that submissive people, as well as those seeking false serenity | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| power-driven person, as well as with the predominantly submissive type. Each does it in a different way | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| which is simultaneously counteracted by an equally strong submissive attitude. This is one aspect. The guilt is | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| coping with danger, which is why the strong submissive attitude was originally chosen. But since the power | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| not being as good and obedient as the submissive attitude demands; the false guilt of daring to | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| rigid concept that humans fell easily into this submissive and dependent attitude. False religion encouraged fear, dependency | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| you to be as helpless as the outright submissive, compliant and weak person. By saying that being | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| surroundings. The guilt then may make you overly submissive, and lead you to give in to the | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| rebelliousness -- because conceding always appears like a submissive, humiliating giving in. It is only through love | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| there are three basic ones: the aggressive, the submissive, and the withdrawal solutions -- they are destined | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| peace, not one iota less aggressive than the submissive solution, whose hostility always smolders underground. In whatever | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| rights, your entire person. You may be weak, submissive, not assertive enough and thus encourage a negative | 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT |
| generous and give of yourself. You are neither submissive nor rebellious. You consider ideas or advice from | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| hopelessness.. Whoever is outwardly negative, dependent, weak, and submissive will find it difficult to deal with his | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| or that to love means to be weak, submissive, and spineless, then your ideas reflect a lack | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| within your soul, you may swing from being submissive to being a rebel. Political systems swing from | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
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| approval. Sadism is the consequence of detesting one's submissiveness and resenting it. This resentment is, of course | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| In your fear of rejection and defeat such submissiveness seems the only way to achieve what you | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| often appears deceptively similar to the wrong, weak submissiveness which poses as love. It is this sham | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| inability to distinguish between true love and weak submissiveness, because this is what you desire from those | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| will usually fluctuate in this period between masochistic submissiveness on the one hand and hostile resentment on | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| of the forcing current. One such attitude is submissiveness. When you are submissive you cling, and hope | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| it to be given freely. The stronger the submissiveness, the stronger the forcing current, which expresses your | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| a new light. One such measure is the submissiveness -- sometimes very subtle -- with which you | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| willingness for it. You may believe that your submissiveness is true sacrifice and unselfishness. Only very close | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| the solution of life's problems. The attitudes of submissiveness, aggressiveness, and withdrawal are the distortions of love | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| such people claim an imperfection, a helplessness, a submissiveness that are not genuine. They use these fake | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| pseudo-solutions are different, will find aspects of this submissiveness in their psyche. The extent to which this | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| some specific area the prevailing attitude may be submissiveness. Likewise, the submissive type may in certain cases | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| procreation instinct becomes conducive to the pseudo-solution of submissiveness, compliance, appeasement. The quest for love is supposed | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| healthy person will not respond to him with submissiveness. A third possibility is that, even the most | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| thinks he needs, he will call upon his submissiveness. The very same person who usually domineers over | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| aspect. The guilt is the reaction of your submissiveness to your power drive. An additional aspect is | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| drive also exists, it reacts to such self-effacing submissiveness with self-contempt and guilt of a different nature | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| protection. In this category belong the attitudes of submissiveness, aggressiveness, and withdrawal. These three aspects, as well | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| various pseudo-solutions are. Even if the pseudo-solution is submissiveness, which seems so opposite to the arrogance of | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| the aggressive success-seeker who denies needs, underneath the submissiveness as much arrogance and superiority will be found | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| following confusion: Since everyone has a streak of submissiveness, you may confuse submissiveness with giving up your | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| has a streak of submissiveness, you may confuse submissiveness with giving up your false superiority, just as | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| us examine for a moment the difference between submissiveness, appeasement, and the unprotected, vulnerable real self which | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| has its effect on others. However, you confuse submissiveness with the dignity that is lacking in you | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| the dignity that is lacking in you. Your submissiveness is the result of your repressed needs and | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| much against outer hurts, but against your own submissiveness. You find yourself ensnarled in this conflict. You | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| and this by no means implies the unhealthy submissiveness that is born out of fear of loss | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| detail a little later. If your pseudo-solution is submissiveness, weakness, helplessness and dependency as a means of | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| be a necessary, temporary reaction to an unhealthy submissiveness, to the craving for affection, or to any | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| evil. Even if you have recognized that such submissiveness is unhealthy, emotionally you cannot yet experience the | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| has a weakening effect, since it leads to submissiveness and allows one to be exploited. You know | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| will you be confused between the alternatives of submissiveness and domination through selfwill. You will know when | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| no matter how this is camouflaged by outer submissiveness which, in itself, may appear as lovingness. When | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| pushy attitude and, say, sexual dissatisfaction? Or between submissiveness, lack of self-assertion, on the one hand, and | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |